mb23 Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 I'm not sure what to do about my male friend.He used to fancy me, even though he is married, but i'm not sure if he still does. I saw him yesterday, but we hadn't seen each other for three months before that, and he got back intouch with me last weekend to ask me to go out yesterday. A relative of mine also went. He wasn't asked at first, but then my male friend ended up asking him. They have been friends a lot longer, as my male friend is a lot older than me, and so is my relative. My male friend kept winking at me when he kept telling jokes about my relative. He wasn't joking in a cruel way, he was just having a laugh. He also sat with his arm around me some fo the time ( not all the way around me, but on the top of the chair i was sat on ) . He bought me a couple of drinks and I danced with him to one song, and he held me close to him for a few seconds. Most of the time, he was saying that he didn't like dancing, and my relative made a comment on how he dances with his wife. I was dancing with some guys some of the time. I didn't like any of them, i was just having a laugh. Then suddenly, my relative came over to me and said that my male friend had left. My relative was drunk and he didn't say why he had left, Sometimes he can come out with nasty comments when he is drunk, so i'm wondering if he said something to him. I tried to call my male friend. The first couple of times i called, the phone rang but it went through to voicemail, and the third time i tried, it went straight through to voicemail, so he must have turned his phone off. I was upset as i didn't think it was fair of him to take it out on me, as i hadn't done anything wrong. Do you think i should just wait and see if he contacts me ?. My relative tried to call him today but he didn't answer the phone. I haven't tried to contact him today. I was hoping he would contact me but he didn't. I know that he has argued with my relative about me once before in the past, as my relative had a go at him about him fancying me.
january2010 Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 He has a wife. Unless you are looking to come between the two of them, I suggest that you let him be.
Seamless74 Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 the way i see it you did all kinds of things wrong.. Whats a matter with you?? First of all the whole encounter you and your married "friend" and your relative sounds like a ****ing nightmare.. Your relative probably just called your "friend" or dick in a glass case to be more exact (u know only break in case of emergency) out on his ridiculous behavior. I think the whole thing sounds rather silly.
Feelin Frisky Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 You should realize that this whole situation was fragile--the married friend does not know how you really feel, you don't know how he really feels, the realtive has a relationship with the guy and with you. Then throw alcohol and dancing with other guys into the mix. It may seem like a "normality" to you but this is something that can't go on forever. Something is going to trigger change. Perhaps the married guy felt things he didn't want to feel and just took himself out--that seems to be the case. You can't have this picture forever--he's not a character in your life--he's a man facing a world of feelings and concerns.
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