Talk to Me About Casual Dating

[anned80]

So, I'm turning over a new leaf. After spending the past few months thinking that I was ready for a relationship (after being in one for 10 years and getting divorced) - I have finally come to the realization that I should not be in a relationship right now and I do not want one.

 

Talk to me about casual dating. How do you define this? Basically, where I'm at mentally is that if I happen to meet someone that is super awesome and something develops then that is fine but I'm not seeking out anything.

 

So, I'm planning on just going on a bunch of dates and not really worrying to much about it. Is this casual dating? I'm hesitant to tell men up front that I'm not looking for a relationship because they may just think that all I want is sex. And yeah, if that happens I'm open to that but I'm enjoying getting to know new people and figure out what I want.

 

For example, what if you know a man is really looking for a relationship - shoudl I not go on a date with that person? After how many dates would I bring this up? I guess everyone has their own thoughts on this and I'd be curious to hear about them.

[carhill]

For example, what if you know a man is really looking for a relationship - should I not go on a date with that person? After how many dates would I bring this up?

Disclose, preferably prior to any dating taking place but after interest has been expressed.

 

'I'm not interested in a long-term or serious relationship at this time but enjoy socializing and dating. How do you feel about that?'

[USCGAviator]

Like you ann I recently left a 10 yr marriage. I knew I didn't want to be in a relationship and be accountable to someone but I did miss a womans company.

 

I went on a date about 5 months ago with a nice woman (also divorced) that I met online. We had a great date and I was very honest with her about what my expectations were. I told her I didn't want a gf and I just wanted a firend to hang out with and enjoy each others company. I left it up to her to accept this or not which she politely did accept.

 

We agreed to tell the each other we found other people so we could stop sleeping together. So during our 4 month fling there was no BS or expectations from either side. Everything worked out for both of us and although were not seeing each other anymore, there was no bad blood.

[USCGAviator]

Just be honest about what your looking for. I told mine that I wanted a monogamous fling lol but in a tacful way. I'm not sure how that would play out from a woman approaching it but I can imagine that you would not have a hard time finding that.