lovebitme Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 (edited) Let's say you dated a girl a few times and then things fizzled. Do you error on the side of "chasing" or "waiting"? By waiting I mean letting the whole thing go for a couple months and then making contact again. Has anyone had success restarting an old flame? Edited December 23, 2010 by lovebitme
youngskywalker Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 I think you are better off letting the whole thing go and giving her a call later on in life when you have new things to talk about. Personally, I've had positive results with making contact again with almost all my ex's. But none of them turned into anything romantic. They turned into great friendships though! Why did it fizzle? I don't understand what's going on in your situation so I can't really comment. A lot of people just launch way to early IMO without going through with the "chasing" as you put it. Do you think she was interested? If she wasn't then you need to move on. Nothing wrong with giving her a call someday but I'd say just let the chips fall where they may for now. It doesn't matter how long it is. Could be months... could be years. You can always pic up the phone and see how she is doing. Just don't expect anything.
USMCHokie Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 I wane, and I don't ever consider it an error. There might be a certain degree of "chasing" early on, but if it's to the extent that I actually have to use the word "chase," then she's probably not interested enough and not worth the time and effort. It shouldn't be hard. LAUNCH.
Author lovebitme Posted December 24, 2010 Author Posted December 24, 2010 I wane, and I don't ever consider it an error. There might be a certain degree of "chasing" early on, but if it's to the extent that I actually have to use the word "chase," then she's probably not interested enough and not worth the time and effort. It shouldn't be hard. LAUNCH. Yeah that's a good work for it "wane". And that's exactly what I did. I waned my way right out of the relationship. But I'm talking about giving a call months down the road to see if things would be different. I supposed it's a dumb question that nobody can really answer. I was just wondering if anyone had luck with picking up relationships again that fizzled. What makes it hard is I don't know why it fizzled and I thought everything was going great. Oh well, no sense crying over spilt milk. I have a new girl going now and hopefully it will grow into something. It's just hard to get involved with a new girl when you're not completely over the last one.
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