Superdude87 Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 (edited) So me and my most recent ex dated for about 6 months, and then she decided for several reasons to move away to live with her sister about 3 months ago. She had mentioned this might happen when we first started dating, so it wasn't a complete shock. Things weren't really working out over there for her, so she moved back last week. Now, our relationship was pretty awesome. Very chill, very laid back, and super easy from the get-go. No drama, no bull****. I loved it. I didn't try to stop her from leaving because I wasn't selfish enough to be the only thing keeping her here if she really wanted to leave. I cared enough about her to want her to be happy, and she doesn't really like this area. So here's my dilemma and I'm hoping you guys can shed some light on this for me. She called me a few weeks prior to moving back to tell me she was moving back. She texted me the Monday she left and told me she was on her way. She calls me Wednesday on the road to ask for weather conditions, and tells me when she gets in she wants to come hang out....yes, her first day back. We didn't hang out the first night she was in (she got in late) but the next night a big group of us (her friends and mine) went out downtown and drank and hung out. She came over last night and we just hung out, I cooked us dinner and played some Wii. Real chill. I'm not totally sure how she views me, or our relationship. I DON'T want to be friend-zoned here. I was really falling for this girl when she decided to move, and was stupid for not telling her. I guess I let my pride get in the way and I have a hard time telling people I want them, need them, etc. She has more exes than I do (she's 4 years older) so it's more common for her to be friends with her exes, although as far as I know she doesn't really see or hang out with them often...so the fact that she wanted to hang out the first night she came back, I'm not really sure how to interpret that. I don't want to appear needy, clingy, or anything like that but I want to send a strong message that I want to get back together. Do I just tell her? Do I just make a move physically and let that do the talking? I don't think she's the kind of girl who would bring it up, which is different for me because usually the girls I date are a little more aggressive than this one. So if somethings gonna happen, I will be the one to initiate it. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. CLIFFS -Me and ex dated for 6 months -Good relationship, no drama/bs/cheating -Moved away to live with sister 3 months ago -Moved back last week -Have hung out twice, went well -How do I act around her to let her know I want her back without being too clingy and needy? Edited December 23, 2010 by Superdude87
january2010 Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 Be yourself. No acting required. But do talk to her and find out if she feels the same way about giving it another go. Good luck
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