overseas2004 Posted March 16, 2004 Posted March 16, 2004 Hi..... It has been my first date since a super big break up. I still kind of feel like a chick that just popped out of an egg back in the dating seen. So I figured I would share the events of my latest date with you guys and see what you think. We went out on a super date that ended up lasting almost 10 hours. The next morning when he left my house (we were not sexually intimate that night) he said "I will call you this afternoon". Later on that evening at 7 pm he called and talked for a bit. He informed me that he was going to go swimming. Then he said " I think we will see each other tomorrow or the day after tomorrow.... that is not a problem is it"? I just asked him " why would it be a problem"? Then the conversation went on and he kind of hinted at coming over that evening. I told him to call me after his workout and we would see. He did call after his workout but I was already out. I had mentioned to him that I had a friend from out of town visiting. He could hear music and laughing in the background and then he said "Ok I can see you are out... so I will just call you tomorrow and we will see each other then". I really did not have a need to see him immediately that night. But I feel like he was testing me. We have been on only one date and already the games have begun. Although I don't view this particular game as a big deal. I have to say I am so tired of this crap. Anyway..... any comments????? suggestions??? Any of you in similar situations?
Tony T Posted March 16, 2004 Posted March 16, 2004 My only detection in your post of a game is one YOU are playing. He hinted at coming over after his workout and he did call afterwards and you, after encouraging him to call, decided not to be there. Otherwise, he has done everything he has said he would do. He has called everytime he said he would call....something that's rather rare. Babes, if you think this guy is playing games you are in for one hell of an awakening!!! hahahahahahaha
Author overseas2004 Posted March 16, 2004 Author Posted March 16, 2004 Sorry I forgot to mention the fact that I told him I may go out for a bit to see a friend of mine who had come in from out of town. I totally was not playing games.
moimeme Posted March 16, 2004 Posted March 16, 2004 I really did not have a need to see him immediately that night. But I feel like he was testing me. We have been on only one date and already the games have begun. Although I don't view this particular game as a big deal. I have to say I am so tired of this crap. What on earth do you mean 'testing you'? It seems he enjoyed your company quite a bit since he called the day after your long date and seemed to want to see you right away. If he's playing any game at all, it sounds as though he was trying - and failing - to sound nonchalant. Maybe he wanted you to sound really eager to see him so he'd know where he stands, which would not be playing games so much as being worried about being too eager too soon. I have to say I am so tired of this crap. To accuse someone of 'playing games' and to say you are 'so tired of this crap' is pretty hostile. This sounds like baggage to me. Try not to get your back up and look for reasons to get hostile so early in the relationship. He hasn't done anything wrong at all, so chill and see how it goes. If you're looking to find serious fault right off the bat, the guy hasn't got a chance. He has called everytime he said he would call. Well, no. He said he'd call in the afternoon and he didn't call until 7 pm so why would she expect him to call right after his workout? Aside from the fact that she did say she might go out, he only 'hinted' at going over after his workout. This was not a definite plan. Was she supposed to forego everything and wait at home hoping that he might finally decide whether or not he was going to go?
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