husband said wife wordy, nagging, anyone experience?

[confuse2]

thank you for reading, please excuse my English, I'm not native speaker.

we're newly married. as women, we tend to be more wordy than men and we like our men to speak to us.

my husband who doesn't like to talk a lot. when i tell him to do something or ask him something or speak something to him, he would said i am wordy or said i nagging him.

he would said, he listen and he understand and he remember, but then he would say i am wordy.

this make me worried, i feel that he is not willing to communicate with me or likes to hear me speak. maybe i am just parranoid.

but overall he is great husband, cares for me. come home from work on time, when he go somewhere, he would tell me where he go and when he come back.

anyone experience their husband said they are wordy or nagging? i'm worried, does that means he lost interest in me? or he have someone else?

don't anyone feel bad when their husband calls them "wordy or nagging" ?

if there are no other signs except your husband calls you wordy and nagging, should you be worried that there might be some problems with the marriage? or he is avoiding you?

thank you for reading, merry christmas and happy new year to all

[quankanne]

men, being hardwired the way they are, prefer simple, direct communication. Women, who tend to be more comfortable with more abundantly communicating with others, come across as nagging when they're really just trying to communicate.

 

so ... it's really a matter of style of communication, you know? That said, if he says you nag about everything, it probably means he just doesn't want to hear your input. But this is just me guessing. Maybe it's time to ask him directly (but in a way that doesn't threaten him) what he means when he tells you this. Is it because he feels you're being repetitive? Or that he just doesn't want to hear your opinion?

[sally4sara]

Unless everything you say to him is a complaint or an order I'm not sure why he would say you're nagging.

 

But then I think of when I am around someone I would prefer spoke less. It is due to not caring about what they are talking about or having a lack of interest in them as a person. Like a child babbling on and on about subjects of little consequence. So if you're not always complaining, and you're not always ordering him to do something, maybe he doesn't respect you enough to find your conversation interesting. I hope not. That would be sad.

 

Have you tried asking him what he means when he says "too wordy" or "nagging"? It might just be that you pick the wrong times to talk about what is on your mind. When he comes home from work he may just want a moment of quiet. But you haven't seen him all day and might have much you wish to discuss. If its not an emergency, you might find him more receptive if you wait a bit before approaching him.

[confuse2]

thank you for everyone inputs.

what really happens is i actually give him a complaint and an order.

here is what happened.

he is at work there is this one woman who keeps talking to him and flirt with him, she works in the same place as him. i know this because i often bring him lunch to his work, or i come to his work at lunch time so we go eat lunch together.

i often see this woman who keeps talking to him and have flirting actions with him. so i told him straight out when we at home, i say "i ask you please talks less to that woman since it make me feel uncomfortable seeing you talking with her, and i said that woman might likes him".

Yes, I repeated this many times, I did complain and maybe it is an order to give to him, but I really don't want my husband close to this woman, they work together in same place.

And he answered me, he said "wife, you said this everyday. everyday you said the same thing. I Hear you, I listen to you, I understand, you are Wordy"

okie, maybe I am wordy. But as a married couple, I think I have a rights to talk to my husband when something I feel uncomfortable. He said I am wordy, yet when he talks to that woman at his work, why didn't he said she wordy!!

maybe I am over reacting, but the woman work with my husband 8 hours a day, who knows what will happened if I don't said anything about it.

what should I do in this situation? even if I remind him everyday he should not be close to that woman, does that make me Wordy or Nagging?

[coffeecat]

Maybe you are wordy and nagging him. Just tone it down. You told him, he heard you. Insecurity is unattractive.