AMM003 Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 There's not many questions that will get a man in such trouble than this question.. Guys - Anyone have a good answer to this that won't set your SO off and keep her happy? Girls - What is the acceptable answer? And why the heck do you have to ask anyhow?
USMCHokie Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Guys - Anyone have a good answer to this that won't set your SO off and keep her happy? "Yes." If the girl has a problem with me observing objective attractiveness, especially when she asks me, then there is an issue...
kiss_andmakeup Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Since when is that a trick question? I must be missing something.
fishtaco Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Since when is that a trick question? I must be missing something. Since the dawn of time. They're fishing for compliments/self esteem massage. Cheesy questions get cheesy answers. - Yeah, but you're prettier. - Oh you're just saying that/you're lying. - Crack a smile and change the topic.
Feelin Frisky Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Don't ask, don't tell. But seriously, if my SO asked me that and I felt it to be so, I'd say "oh yeah". That's as far as I'd take it. Maybe I'd put her in the same position quickly and throw up some hunk she probably admires and ask her do you think he's hansome? Anyone who is going to have a meltdown if not getting the exact answer they want is an immature weasel.
Surrealist Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Speaking from experience I would probably responde with "yeah she's alright" if she was really attractive. However, I have found some so called hot women not all that attractive so when popped the question I would respond "she isn't my type" or similar and I'd be honest saying that.
denise_xo Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 When I 'ask' it's not really a question, it's just me expressing that someone is beautiful. So I'll say something like "she's really pretty" and then I may add a "don't you think". When I say that, it's just a genuine expression/reaction to something I've seen. There's no 'right' answer. I would be expecting either a 'yes I agree' type of answer or 'no I don't think so' depending on the guy's preferences... nothing more complex in it for me. My H used to get confused by it though because in his mind he wasn't allowed to express that he saw beauty in any other woman than me. He found it odd that I asked him to look at other women
Seamless74 Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 yeah man just say " I wouldnt have sex with her if thats what you mean, but id understand if some guys would want too" Let her wrap her head around that one...
Ruby Slippers Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 Any woman who is dumb or masochistic enough to ask that question when she doesn't really want to know deserves to hear the truth. It's right up there with "Do these jeans make me look fat?"
loverofloveandstuff Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 Any woman who is dumb or masochistic enough to ask that question when she doesn't really want to know deserves to hear the truth. It's right up there with "Do these jeans make me look fat?" Agreed. I don't understand women who ask these questions. Way to make a guy feel uncomfortable.. I understand sometimes they are just genuinely curious but for the most part these women appear insecure and just fishing for a compliment. Worst of all she will probably get pissy if she doesn't hear the answer she wants. Don't ask questions you don't want to hear the answer to ladies. OP - just tell the woman the truth. She asked for it.
zengirl Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 I comment on celebrities that are cute sometimes and have no issue if my SO does. Now, if he said he thought my roommate was sexy or something, that'd be odd. But he can call a girl pretty, no issues. If I asked, it was likely because I was trying to figure out if a girl I think is moderately pretty was just "Girl Pretty" or if she was "Guy Pretty" too. The two are not the same. And I normally ask like, "Do you think most guys would think blahblahblah was pretty?"
musemaj11 Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 "Do you think she is pretty?" is nothing. To me it is nothing tricky at all. I wont feel uncomfortable to answer the question. But the bomb is when a girl asks, "Who do you think is the prettiest girl in this room?" I mean WTF?!? That totally screams "IM INSECURE, PLEASE TELL ME IM THE MOST BEAUTIFUL PRINCESS IN THE ROOM!" A girl did this to me once and I immediately smelled the trap. I simply changed the subject without answering her.
Art_Critic Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 Guys - Anyone have a good answer to this that won't set your SO off and keep her happy? Yeah.. I think she is pretty..kinda like my sister though... Yeah.. I think she is pretty.. but not in that hot I want to eff her way like I think you are.. Yeah.. I think she is pretty skanky...
Art_Critic Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 Oh.. and this one.. Yeah I think she is pretty.. she has a nice walk but those shoes.. oh my god.. they are so slutty..
creighton0123 Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 There's not many questions that will get a man in such trouble than this question.. Guys - Anyone have a good answer to this that won't set your SO off and keep her happy? Girls - What is the acceptable answer? And why the heck do you have to ask anyhow? "Yes, but she's not my girlfriend - you are."
that girl Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 It depends so much on why she is asking. She might be asking about an actress out of curiosity. She might be asking about a friend because she is thinking of setting the friend up and isn't sure how to describe her. She could be asking about a woman on the street because she caught you staring. She could like randomly talking about attractive people. She could be insecure. "Yes, but she's not my girlfriend - you are." Not a good answer, could be consider "Yeah, but I can't get her, I just have you." I don't even think she has to be insecure for this to be an answer fail. I think the best thing is usually to tell the truth but not get to worked up about it. *Shrug* "Yeah, she's pretty" is far less likely to come off badly than "God, yes she is totally hot."
Woggle Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 Why not pick an attractive man and ask her if she thinks is hot? Show what it is like from you end.
angielove Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 Ooooo that question reminds me of high school. I think there are two different ways to deal with this question and give a good response: 1) Indifference and disinterest. For example "yeah, she's okay I guess" and "I dunno, I don't really see her like that". 2) Praise and misdirection. For example "I think you're pretty!" and "she's fine, but nowhere near as gorgeous as you".
Sanman Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 I think the honest answer to the question is the best... "Yes she is attractive (or no she isn't), but why does it matter? I'm with the person I want to be with." It's funny, I have pretty long list of attractive women I have dated and I am upfront about my dating history. The bottom line always is that this means I am CHOOSING to be with a woman, not that I simply couldn't do better. I actually had the opposite problem in my last relationship. My ex-gf said that there was a certain look that I would give her where she felt like she was the only thing in the world to me. That freaked her out. Probably a big part of why she is now my ex.
creighton0123 Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 Not a good answer, could be consider "Yeah, but I can't get her, I just have you." I don't even think she has to be insecure for this to be an answer fail. I think the best thing is usually to tell the truth but not get to worked up about it. *Shrug* "Yeah, she's pretty" is far less likely to come off badly than "God, yes she is totally hot." Heh. Tone doesn't translate over forum posts. I would think anyone would find this endearing as a response if said in a provocative, sexy manner.
lso802 Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 Might as well tell her what you really think then.
Author AMM003 Posted December 23, 2010 Author Posted December 23, 2010 To most guys, it is a trap. The response that we give is analyzed. AND the response IS stored in the SO's seemingly endless memory vault. We know that. That is why it's hard to come up with an "acceptable" answer. I tried to gauge her answer and ask her first what she thinks. Then respond in like terms. It is answering a question with a question. girl: "Do you think she's pretty?" guy: "Did you think she was attractive?" example 1 girl: "I liked her outfit" guy: "I guess, dont know much about women's clothes." example 2 girl: "her b00bs were pretty big" guy: "yours are better baby, i can attest to that.." I think what I try to do is find out what exactly she is noticing that she thinks I will be noticing as well. then go from there. what do you think?
Els Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 "Yes, but she's not my girlfriend - you are." Smart guy.
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