whitepelican Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 (edited) it's been a year of sordid run-ins between my ex-bf and myself. we officially "broke up" last january and i went through the needy, depressed, lonely phases that honestly took me way longer to recover from than i expected. i've had plenty of regrets and learning experiences with how to cope (and more specifically how not to cope) with breaking up. so, despite the turmoil my ex-bf and i both caused ourselves and one another, we have continued sleeping with one another on a fairly regular basis. there's the texts, usually fueled by alcohol and emotions and then boom, we're in bed together. some times emotions have gotten the best of us and sometimes we've kept them at bay but i've come to realize that our sleeping together really does need to end for few reasons....it's not healthy, we have sordid communication, i do still have feelings for the guy, etc. so, my new years resolution has been to wise up and quite the old routine of playing games with one another. that being said, i've still got lingering questions and just want some insight/wisdom/any random thoughts anyone may have. 1. i know i'm attracted to and love my ex but am ready to stop the sex because it's taken enough of a toll on me. but, would either of us continued sleeping with the other for an entire year if attraction/physical/emotional attachment weren't involved? 2. is it typical for men - or women for that matter - to continue sleeping with a person after breaking up with them despite communication breakdowns? 3. can these situations be just about physical sex? can it be just about sex after a breakup with someone you claim to love? well, there ya go. it's taken me a long time to come from being needy and depressed to realizing it's time to respect myself and my ex. i love myself and my ex, but it's time to let things be between us. Edited December 23, 2010 by whitepelican too long
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