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I hear a lot of people talking about being happy single or not.

 

here is where my journey has taken me.

 

on a scale of 1 to 10, I'm a 7ish.

 

I have my ups and downs but I'm feeling good about myself and the decisions I'm making. I have put my trust in God and not in people to lead my life to a better place. that alone is super wonderful.

 

what I have embraced as a single person is that I'm not going to get that high as a single person that I would if I was in a relationship. being loved and sharing good love with someone is a different high I won't experience single

 

but I'm finally cool with that. I like being single now. I wouldn't mind being in a good relationship but I thank God with all my heart that I don't hate my life JUST because I'm single. that makes me feel so complete. like a real woman! not driven by the need to have a man to be happy. what a high!!!!

 

when I go out now, I'm open to meet people and I'm just enjoying the moment whatever it is. I look good and I feel good. I feel sexy and happy. its so hot!!!

 

I know that the day will come when I will be having a man and doing the relationship stuff. right now I'm not worried about it.

 

I'm enjoying getting to know me and all the space I have in my life. its really nice. I have my friends, my family and I have a lot of fun.

 

I keep my distance from vampires who sucked the energy and life out of you. blood sucking friends and people.

 

I still have issues like everyone. I come here to get the poision out! I don't always trust people around me to completely open up to. I rather come here

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I want a man. I do. A real man. I hope to find one someday before my horniness disappears. But if I had one, I don't think I'd be any happier on the 1-10 scale. I'm sure any happiness he added would be countered by the issues that came along with him. :laugh:

 

I kid. ;)

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I want a man. I do. A real man. I hope to find one someday before my horniness disappears. But if I had one, I don't think I'd be any happier on the 1-10 scale. I'm sure any happiness he added would be countered by the issues that came along with him. :laugh:

So you are saying you want a man just so you can bang him? :rolleyes:

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This is a weird concept perhaps, but I feel like I already got "my share" of what many people seek from relationships: I've been married twice, (both deceased, one after we broke up, one during) have a child, and have had many lovely, loving relationships with men, many who remain my friends to this day.

 

I HOPE I will get to give and recieve love within a romantic relationship again, goodness I'm only 43, but if it were not to happen again for me, I would not feel "gypped"

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I hear a lot of people talking about being happy single or not.

 

here is where my journey has taken me.

 

on a scale of 1 to 10, I'm a 7ish.

 

I have my ups and downs but I'm feeling good about myself and the decisions I'm making. I have put my trust in God and not in people to lead my life to a better place. that alone is super wonderful.

 

Good for you, it sounds healthy and rational. You go girl. There is a whole lot out there as a single person. I am sure there are many pluses and minuses in both lifestyles, but if you are single, you might as well have a full, single life and enjoy it.

I am happy you are where you are, and have peace with God, that's huge.

 

happy holidays

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This is a weird concept perhaps, but I feel like I already got "my share" of what many people seek from relationships: I've been married twice, (both deceased, one after we broke up, one during) have a child, and have had many lovely, loving relationships with men, many who remain my friends to this day.

 

I HOPE I will get to give and recieve love within a romantic relationship again, goodness I'm only 43, but if it were not to happen again for me, I would not feel "gypped"

 

That is where I am totally. I would be great but I think Im gonna be fine if I dont get that again. I have been married and been in several relationship. Now its all about me. I do what ever the hell I want to do. As long as I have friends, family, kids, health, good times, etc.

 

I know eventually somebody is going to be here with me. I dont want to be all ingrossed in someone right now. I feel like being ingrossed in me is a lot of fun.

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This is a weird concept perhaps, but I feel like I already got "my share" of what many people seek from relationships: I've been married twice, (both deceased, one after we broke up, one during) have a child, and have had many lovely, loving relationships with men, many who remain my friends to this day.

 

I HOPE I will get to give and recieve love within a romantic relationship again, goodness I'm only 43, but if it were not to happen again for me, I would not feel "gypped"

 

Hi

what a lovely, grateful attitude, and refreshing as heck. Most people don't feel grateful for what they had or have, or expect too much from life. Anyway, i am sorry for the losses -hard stuff-but glad you have this amazing attitude. What a nice way to look at it, and thanks for sharing.

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Good for you, it sounds healthy and rational. You go girl. There is a whole lot out there as a single person. I am sure there are many pluses and minuses in both lifestyles, but if you are single, you might as well have a full, single life and enjoy it.

I am happy you are where you are, and have peace with God, that's huge.

happy holidays

 

Girl, that is HUGE! I absolutely love it. It is the beginning to being whole as a woman. I seem so much more pleasant and good inside. Like I said, I still have my moments. but is all good right now. I keep the vampires away...poisonous bit/ches and some other types of things that pull energy and love out of my being.

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I think happiness attracts love, before this year, I did not want a relationship, this is first time I am feeling that I want to have a steady boyfriend... now that I want it, I am sure it,ll happen although dating has been a bit of a drama so far...I guess its one of those things.

Trick is to be happy and whole in ourselves- A boyfriend isnt going to make me anymore happier then I am but yeah I,ll be nice to have one :)

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I think happiness attracts love, before this year, I did not want a relationship, this is first time I am feeling that I want to have a steady boyfriend... now that I want it, I am sure it,ll happen although dating has been a bit of a drama so far...I guess its one of those things.

Trick is to be happy and whole in ourselves- A boyfriend isnt going to make me anymore happier then I am but yeah I,ll be nice to have one :)

 

right. I acknowledge a man bring a high I cant give myself. It is good. But I have a high i give myself that is good too. they are different. Im here in my home, everything is mines, Im going out for dinner, and I have no drama. I love it. It took me a loonnnnnnnngggggg time to accept my single lifestyle when I would be a single person. looong time. its cool

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right. I acknowledge a man bring a high I cant give myself. It is good. But I have a high i give myself that is good too. they are different. Im here in my home, everything is mines, Im going out for dinner, and I have no drama. I love it. It took me a loonnnnnnnngggggg time to accept my single lifestyle when I would be a single person. looong time. its cool

yeah exactly, I am starting a new job with the new year with a great package, got my own houses, cars...I can buy pretty much what I want...Go out to eat, great set of friends...

we all should appreciate what we have got then what we dont.. I mean, in reality, how many relationships are truly happy ones anyway? I see most my married friends ( I am 28 btw) going through some sort of drama.

It,ll be nice to have someone but until then I am happy and also happy knowing that I have a lot to give to the right man..

heres to single life !!

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So you are saying you want a man just so you can bang him? :rolleyes:

 

Uhh... no. The banging would be nice, but I want one for much more than that.

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yeah exactly, I am starting a new job with the new year with a great package, got my own houses, cars...I can buy pretty much what I want...Go out to eat, great set of friends...

we all should appreciate what we have got then what we dont.. I mean, in reality, how many relationships are truly happy ones anyway? I see most my married friends ( I am 28 btw) going through some sort of drama.

It,ll be nice to have someone but until then I am happy and also happy knowing that I have a lot to give to the right man..

heres to single life !!

 

(Toast Glass in hand with Red wine) Yep!!! lol

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I think most women would be even more happier without a man than with a man. Women always talk about how happy they are without a man and so on... Why? You rarely if ever see men feeling the need to talk about how happy they are without women. Yet it seems to be very common among women to state how happy they are without a man and that they don't need a man and so on. My advice, stay single then, nobodys saying you have to be with a man so stay alone(or be with another woman, lol) then for the rest of your life, that's you choice. :)

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I have to admit, I'm pretty happy without a man in my life. :p

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I have to admit, I'm pretty happy without a man in my life. :p

 

lol funny guy!

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I'm a lover. I just am. So I am happier with a lover in my life. But I don't want just any lover. I don't like things watered down.

 

I'm mostly OK being on my own. Sometimes I'm walking on stardust, sometimes I'm blah -- same as when I'm in a relationship. The highs and lows are for different reasons, but the range is about the same.

 

I'm getting over feeling sorry for myself and starting to find what's good about being on my own.

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Single. I don't see myself wanting to be married. I don't give someone half my stuff! lol

Love will come one day-

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Single. I don't see myself wanting to be married. I don't give someone half my stuff! lol

Love will come one day-

 

You don't need to. Men are the ones who constantly get screwed in the divorce courts not women. Don't act like you have so much to lose, the courts are biased in your favor as a woman.

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