nagrom67131 Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Hey all, new the forum. This forum has been a great source of help and information for me, so I decided to finally register and stop lurking. Almost a month ago, after about 2 years, my gf ended the relationship. She claimed the reason was that I never get to see her (sometimes no more than twice a week), which I understand to some degree..my work causes me to work horrible hours and schedules and that's not something I can simply fix...but it was clear that this would only last during my "paying my dues" period of the job and would get better. Part of me believes there was more to it than that, but I don't know. She has periods of emotional instability and I know she made this decision during one of those periods. It's harder for me to acknowledge and accept her decision if I'm not sure it was made on a clear mind, not in haste. Anyway, apart from analyzing the break-up it self, I'm obviously heart broken. I really love her, and I know from what I read in a previous post, sometimes love isn't enough. I haven't had any contact with her aside from the first week, which from what I've read is the way to go. Other than keeping myself busy, which is harder than it seems, it's hard because EVERYTHING reminds me of her...which I guess is normal this early on. I hope I can feed off of you guys and your posts to help me get through this. I've been in this position before so I know it does eventually get better, but getting to eventually really, really hurts and sucks. Thanks for listening, folks.
january2010 Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 Regardless of the reason given, it can still be difficult to accept the break up, particularly if we feel that the factors that 'caused' the break up were out of our control. As you know, during the early days, it is normal to go through the stages of denial and bargaining. Since you've been through this before, you probably also know that time is the main ingredient in getting over a breakup. Time and the oft-recommended strategy of NC. During your healing, recognise your triggers and make plans ahead of time to create new memories.
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