It's a roller coaster ride with him...

[Free spirit86]

So, my ex contacted me today after one day no contact! On Sunday he said I need to move on, and that we should get distance(no contact) and talk another time. Surely only a day without talking and he sends me a text. This is what he said " Bonjour!! Keeping hating you cause you keep haunting my mind!!! Welcome back to FB..."(facebook for those who don't know-I deactivated my account then reactivated it. I think I love it too much to say goodbye, I know that's sad lol)"How are you?..." (really? he asked how I am, how the **** does he think I am!!!)" Any news for jobs?" At first I was relieved to hear from him, but I have been wavering from sadness to anger, and it is taking a toll on me! I thought about responding because I really want this relationship but its too much back and forth! one day he doesn't want to talk the next he is texting me? What gives? cause something has got to! I think am going to wait a few days and then respond, but I don't want miss my window of opportunity. What do you guys think? Back story is on a thread called glimmer of hope.

[aisle_seat]

He's the one who told you he wants no contact? And now he's texting you after a day??

 

Don't respond to his attempts at contact. By asking "how are you" he's obviously taking your feelings much too lightly. Take his advice and move on, which includes not being at his beck and call.

[creighton0123]

If there's too much back and forth in the relationship, chances are there are enough red flags to move on.

 

Breakups suck, but moving on and finding someone awesome and worthy of you who won't play games is phenomenal.

[folieadeux]

I posted in your other thread as well. I wouldn't even bother replying back to his messages. He did you a favor by breaking up with you; you really do deserve so much better.

[CandyHeart]

I wouldnt respond and if you did decide to respond I would just put something like I'm fine or I'm good.