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Guy dumps cheating girlfriend on the radio...could this have been prevented?

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40 Fonzarelli Established Member

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Here is what happened

 

I was reading some comments on another site and someone posted this about the clip.

 

"It is not 'caveman bull****'. Men must remain dominant in their relationships and not let their women run amok under the guise of "complete trust" or "unwavering respect".

 

Chris says that he completely trusted his girlfriend to spend time with her male friend, and you see what happened. She took Chris' 'complete trust' as a sign that he didn't care, and that made it very easy for her to fall in the arms of another man who acted like he did care.

 

The sad thing is, women like Ashley are not an exception, they are the norm. Just like children, women need and WANT boundaries set for them. If the man is not dominant enough to lay down the law, the women become confused and start to question their relationships. When they are in this state, they can be easily manipulated by other men.

 

Feminism has attempted to turn women into men, but all it has really done has left women more confused then ever."

 

Do you agree with this? Why or why not?

Woggle Established Member

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Good for him. I do not agree with the rest of what you said but it is women like her who make men this bitter.

quankanne Established Member

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The sad thing is, women like Ashley are not an exception, they are the norm.

 

they are, if you mean "by the norm" the kind of person who is looking for any slight "sign" of encouragement to indulge in scuzzy behavior. By and large, though, most women (and men) who are in healthy, committed, solidly content (happy) relationships don't need to find excuses to cheat because they're just not interested in straying from the relationship they have.

 

women like Ashley don't want boundaries, they just want loopholes to do whatever the hell they want, and still be able to find ways to come out the wronged party "because he didn't love me the way I needed when he didn't say 'no' to me" ....

 

when my husband gives me his complete trust to spend time away from him with my friends (which include a small group of males from college), I take that as my sign to be extra careful NOT to f*ck up that trust, because I've got it good in ways that others don't. And because I really don't want to be the one to shoot him between the eyes, he deserves more respect than that in a partner.

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Ashley's guy didn't make her a cheating _____. She was already one.

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He was lucky to get the opportunity to see that side of her and run before he popped the question!

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Ashley's guy didn't make her a cheating _____. She was already one.

 

So true.

 

The OP is basically saying that if a woman cheats, it's her man's fault.

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Just listened to it. Yikes is all I can say.

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Here's an older thread on the same video, for comparison.

 

IMO, if I have to patrol boundaries with a woman like I would parenting a child, we'd last about zero seconds. That's ten seconds less than the time it will take her to find a man who will parent her in return for a wet noodle. Not me, no thanks. Good luck :)

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Good for him, and she deserved the public humiliation. I generally a kinda soft hearted guy, but I'm glad he found out and dumped her before marriage.

Woggle Established Member

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It's a good thing there is nobody near my office right now because I laughed out loud when they did that baby cry.

 

Also all women are not like this but a woman's reaction to this speaks volumnes about her.

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pretending that the skit was real: why would anyone sit there and attempt to justify themselves on live radio?

 

Good for him that the truth came out before he proposed to her.

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It's a good thing there is nobody near my office right now because I laughed out loud when they did that baby cry.

 

:lmao: I laughed at that too!

 

I heartily disagree with what that particular person said...it blames a woman's cheating on a man being "weak" and failing to establish boundaries. To cheat involves consciously making a choice to betray one's partner, and the person making the choice is fully responsible for it.

Woggle Established Member

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:lmao: I laughed at that too!

 

I heartily disagree with what that particular person said...it blames a woman's cheating on a man being "weak" and failing to establish boundaries. To cheat involves consciously making a choice to betray one's partner, and the person making the choice is fully responsible for it.

 

I agree but it is something a bitter guy goes through. I once thought that a man needs to show a woman who is boss or she won't respect him and will therefore cheat on him. I now realize that it is about a person's character. I trust my wife fully but if she ever betrays that trust she will end up like the cheater in this radio clip.

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I trust my wife fully but if she ever betrays that trust she will end up like the cheater in this radio clip.

 

I don't know, Wogs – my husband got ditched by two cheating wives and was pretty damn bitter when we met. Something changed in him over the years, because he's surprised me a couple of times by saying that he wouldn't necessarily ditch me should I cheat on him because he hoped that we could work things out. Does it mean that he finally understands that loving someone is being able to forgive them, because you really want to be with them? I don't know, and I'm almost afraid to ask.

 

I'm pretty sure I couldn't stay in a marriage if one of us cheated because of the pride/self-loathing thing. I know I couldn't live with myself if I stooped that low to become the kind of person I have no respect for (a cheater).

Woggle Established Member

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I know I could never trust a woman that cheated. It was a big struggle learning to trust a woman in the first place and without trust you can't have a good marriage. My wife was cheated on by an ex fiance so she knows the pain of betrayal as well as I do which is a good sign she will never do it herself.

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I don't know, Wogs – my husband got ditched by two cheating wives and was pretty damn bitter when we met. Something changed in him over the years, because he's surprised me a couple of times by saying that he wouldn't necessarily ditch me should I cheat on him because he hoped that we could work things out. Does it mean that he finally understands that loving someone is being able to forgive them, because you really want to be with them? I don't know, and I'm almost afraid to ask.

 

I'm pretty sure I couldn't stay in a marriage if one of us cheated because of the pride/self-loathing thing. I know I couldn't live with myself if I stooped that low to become the kind of person I have no respect for (a cheater).

Wow, twice? It happened to me once. A second time and I don't know if would ever quite recover the ability to trust again. It's hard enough as it is now.

I think his knowing you well enough now to believe the bolded part made him able to say what he said. Because he must trust you and think you wouldn't do it.:)

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Didn't you guys think it sounded setup?

 

Who would stay on the phone with a radio station after being called out like that? Plus, some of the things she said sounded too perfect, things someone just wouldn't say in that situation.

 

RF

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Didn't you guys think it sounded setup?

 

Who would stay on the phone with a radio station after being called out like that? Plus, some of the things she said sounded too perfect, things someone just wouldn't say in that situation.

 

RF

 

Can almost guarantee it was scripted acting. Many morning talk shows, including one here has that same setup.

USMCHokie Established Member

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"Bitch be trippin'."

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Here is the follow up

http://blogs.riverfronttimes.com/atoz/2010/03/update_woody_and_rizzuto_audio_chris_ashley_break-up_the_point_audio_what_happened.php

 

Im just shocked as to how he didn't know what was going on for so long. What is even more shocking is her living a double life and having a desire to marry this man, knowing what she has been doing behind his back for years. I don't want to be with someone and be paranoid all the time. I guess these kinds of risks are all something we have to take on and accept.

Woggle Established Member

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A good way to measure a woman's real feelings about men is to play her this and see how she reacts.

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