JP2009 Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Well this has to be one of the loneliest times of the year. My ex has somebody new and I can't stop thinking about how happy she is without me. A girl I had feelings for told me she wants nothing more than to be friends. UGH!! I just want to have somebody to talk with and laugh with. This sucks!
youngskywalker Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Personally, I can't wait for the holidays to be over.
Cee Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 This is a weird time of year because it's the anniversary of leaving my ex husband. And I have been single for several years now, which compounds the feeling of loneliness. I decided to take a trip abroad to do something different for New Year's and not feel like such a wall flower.
Yer_Blues Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Personally, I can't wait for the holidays to be over. Same. I hate this season
durkadurka Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 It is what it is. This time last year I was on the patio of at my place in Hawaii sipping martinis with my ex. This year.. I'm not doing much. It is what it is.
sumdude Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 It sure can be. It was 4 years ago this time when I realized something was very wrong with my ex and marriage..we had a god awful Xmas and it was the first without my mom to boot. 3 weeks later my exW pulled the surprise move out and I realized she had been cheating. Now Dad's gone too and everything is so different. This will be my first Xmas away from family. I'm striving to keep a good attitude and enjoy myself regardless. But every once in a while it only takes a little reminder. Still being single doesn't help either. But, I have to make up my mind to be as happy as possible, no reason to wallow.
Template Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Yeah, we are hardwired to think that the holidays is all about family gatherings, and spending time with your love ones... happy happy joy joy. It's the gift of the marketing machine. I've always wanted and still strive for that magical time and feeling of the year, but as the years go by, I'm learning to let this go more and more. At 37, I can count on one hand the days in which I weren't alone (parents working, no gf, friends with their families). This year is no different - well I have a cat now, so I guess that's a small improvement. LOL
catgotyourtongue Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Well this has to be one of the loneliest times of the year. My ex has somebody new and I can't stop thinking about how happy she is without me. A girl I had feelings for told me she wants nothing more than to be friends. UGH!! I just want to have somebody to talk with and laugh with. This sucks! YUP sometimes it sucks, it just does. I do hope the New Year brings you less sadness and more joy. I guess there are several things you can do. -just sit with it and ride it out, in a week or so its all over, holidays -know that it is temporary -consider people way worse off than you -go easy on yourself and let yourself feel sad, for a while, then come up for air and b grateful for something that does not involve love/lonliness. -consider this your time for a tough time. We all have them, so maybe this year or last is your hard one, and next year wont be. -next year you might be the one posting how happy you are, and someone else takes your spot -dont base all your happiness on another person, we all can tend to do this, but try and be around other people you like, that like you...without basing your entire sadness on what you dont have. I am in same rut right now, a little sad, but happy as heck for other things, friends, etc. job hope you feel better soon and send warm thougts to you and all who are hurting
USMCHokie Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Eh...I'm starting to feel the loneliness too...started dating a girl and was hoping to spend the holidays with her...she disappeared, so I'm stuck with no one and no plans...and it looks like my annual road trip isn't even going to be worth going on...gah...
xpaperxcutx Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 I don't really hate it since I don't really celebrate xmas, but I'm happy I'm actually spending time with family and friends. I don't need a relationship to be happy, I have people who wants me in their lives, that's what counts.
pandagirl Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 I think if you are truly alone -- no friend, no family, nothing -- the holidays would be MISERABLE. But just because you don't have a significant other doesn't mean you have to feel lonely! I'm single, and yes, I miss my ex... but, I am with my family, I get to see my adorable nieces and nephews, my friends... All in all, I'll be around everyone I love, so it's not half bad.
january2010 Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 My first singleton Christmas in a very long time. It's also going to be a challenge because I'm not going to see the people I normally see around this time of year - many of them are off doing their own thing. I love Christmas though and I'm going to make the best of it - use the time to reflect on all that's happened this year and make plans to make 2011 bigger and brighter.
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