9Lives Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 It has been since Aug 19th and I havent seen him or talk to him or anything other than him texting me some dumb ****. I shut that down too. Honestly, in my mind, it is like we are going to talk or something. Im like, why is my mind going there? He dont want to get back together. he told me he didnt. I have been working hard to rebuild my own life with positive and good things. I have been working at really letting go. Yes I have made a couple of dumb mistakes along the way but for the most part, Im really trying. I think about my ex and I wonder sometimes about his thoughts even tho I should not. I feel like he is happy with his decision and living his life and happy about it. I just dont know why Im feeling this way. Deep down inside I want to take the lessons I learned and forget this nightmare ever happen with him. I dont want to care about someone who brought me so much hurt and pain. I just dont get it.
january2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 As you probably know already, it takes time. What I've found is that when I feel the tug and thoughts pulling me in again, it's usually due to a trigger of some sort and my heart/emotions leading the way rather than my head - thus leading to an internal dialogue of opposing views. Head vs. heart. My head knows what needs to be done but my heart is lagging behind somewhat.
Author 9Lives Posted December 22, 2010 Author Posted December 22, 2010 As you probably know already, it takes time. What I've found is that when I feel the tug and thoughts pulling me in again, it's usually due to a trigger of some sort and my heart/emotions leading the way rather than my head - thus leading to an internal dialogue of opposing views. Head vs. heart. My head knows what needs to be done but my heart is lagging behind somewhat. You are probably right Jan2010! There has been some things that could have triggerred that. I get it now. Makes sense. So this is normal?
GreenPolicy Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Hope is hard-wired into your heart. It's normal and natural. It just takes time for your heart to catch up to your head.
january2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Yup, tis normal. Sadly. Know your triggers and avoid them for now or deal with them one by one when you feel up to it. Make new memories. Fun ones that are all about you and your new beginning.
Author 9Lives Posted December 22, 2010 Author Posted December 22, 2010 Yup, tis normal. Sadly. Know your triggers and avoid them for now or deal with them one by one when you feel up to it. Make new memories. Fun ones that are all about you and your new beginning. THANK YOU JAN2010!!! You really helped me...whew!!! Okay, Im better! You just stored yourself up a blessing!
january2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 ^^^ I'm glad you feel better. And thank you. I won't say no to a blessing.
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