Author alexlakeman Posted January 16, 2011 Author Posted January 16, 2011 Alex.. consider yourself lucky that this one is cut loose.. Not because that she wanted you to pay for her but because she showed no empathy toward your own financial position. I don't normally use words like this in dating and who pays for what but she seemed pretty selfish. Thanks, I agree. I never let my heart get close, b/c I knew we would have to have this talk sooner or later and it might turn out not the way I would've "preferred" but we're best this way. I told her about the example I ALWAYS think of .. "A couple at home depot a while back, the guy was paying for some stuff, he was short $, and turned over the g/f, wife, whatever and asked her for a couple dollars".. Something so insignificant, but so cool.. There they were on a Sat afternoon doing stuff together at home depot, they were close enough, that he didn't feel ashamed of asking her for a couple bucks, etc.. silly, but meaninful to me. Guess it's what I am used to . My ex g/f of 4 years, we were always helping each other other out. This g/f earned less than the "subject" gf in this thread , and less than 1/2 of what I make. I had a period of no job, she helped me out, I paid her back.. she had a period with low cash flow, I hepled her out, etc.. I would love to go out sometimes, and get her a cute mini, or blouse, BUT SHE NEVER told me "buy it for me , I'll wear it".. she had too much self worth.. She paid for her own way to one of our vacations with a out a blink of an eye.. She knew I was paying for the rest, etc.. same scenario.. I am comfortable in that I am not 1. Cheap, nor 2. Buy women with $... I think I am just "normal" when it comes to that..
dreamingoftigers Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 To have a "good heart" aside from the selfishness with money, does not a good partner make. To not realize about anyone else's finances (esp because they are "the guy") is really naive and backwards thinking during this era. The fact that she hasn't had to pay for much speaks volumes. It would be amazing to think that she may not have concept at all.
bac Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 From what i know about females, they might put males from dating pool in a few boxes. The first box is the hot/attractive young guys in early 20-30s. The guys are commonly used for fun/drama/falling in love. The second box is the husband material guys. The guys are used for getting married, making babies and supporting financially wife and kids. The third box is the sugar daddies. The guys are very loved for their money or other help in any area of woman's life. In the third box, there are all guys who do not fit the first/second boxes requirements. In other words, if you have grey hair, wrinkles, perhaps stomach or you are not young enough, it means that you do not fit the box of the young hot guys. Also, if you are not really looking for a wife and kids, you do not fit the box of guys who are husband material.
dreamingoftigers Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 I find women usually have one agenda when it comes to relationships and whatever that is, that is the type of guy that they seek out. Has very little to do with categories and boxes.
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