LoveBug1989 Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 I'm livid. One week after my beloved LDR boyfriend breaks up with me, due to 1. not having enough money to come see me anymore (please note: he has very little money) 2. trying to get his priorities in order 3. trying to plan his career path 4. too much stress his first status update since breaking up with me is "A tattoo" which can only mean that he just got one, or is just getting one. I'm positive because he had mentioned this a while ago when we were still dating. IS HE SERIOUS. he breaks up with me due to HAVING NO MONEY and shells out a good chunk of money on this. Maybe someone said they'd buy it for him as a Christmas gift or something. I have no clue, and i really don't care right now. He lives with other guys just as poor as he is. Apparently a tattoo is more satisfying than a girlfriend who gives you her whole heart and soul and puts every ounce of her being into making you happy, just to see that wonderful smile on your face and your chocolate brown eyes glow with warmth. Thanks Alex......
january2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Full NC (delete and block). Then you don't have to deal with any status updates. I know you're probably just venting. But it's important that you focus on you rather than him, particularly given that the breakup is still fresh.
Hhhh Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 f... alex you deserve better if you really treated him right... move on he will be probably be crawling back
Feelin Frisky Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 A tattoo is always a subtraction from an identity or appearance and never an addition. If this guy thinks its some big addition to his life, he's making it very clear he has his priorities screwed up. You should take this as all the more reason to be glad it's over and glad you didn't get more invested in a mistake. Good luck.
sally4sara Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 Two of my husband's tattoos were part of a barter deal; he did work for a guy who owned a tattoo parlor. Another was free; it is so bizarre they just wanted to put it on someone! Since you know he doesn't have much money, is it possible he got his via a similar situation?
Surfer203 Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 I know a lot of people who have gotten tattoos after break ups. I assume this is fairly common. Kind of a liberating experience, maybe putting something on your body that you chose/like and you feel empowers you. I have lots of tattoos.. both arms are covered (sleeves, as people call them) but I got these long before any of my situation happened. I disagree with Feelin Frisky. Tattoos are not a subtraction of identity or appearance. I personally really like mine and feel they are me! I am an artist and musician and they kind of go with the territory.
Feelin Frisky Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 ... I am an artist and musician and they kind of go with the territory. Just FYI, so am I. And I've never seen the connection between getting a tattoo and being and artist or musician. You can't have talent inked on or the vision that demands art to express it inked in. It doesn't work that way. Maybe the tatto thing does some "artists" a sales job. But that's about as far as it goes. Tell me it gives power more than that and perhaps I'll get one.
lostsoulmate Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 A tattoo is always a subtraction from an identity or appearance and never an addition. If this guy thinks its some big addition to his life, he's making it very clear he has his priorities screwed up. You should take this as all the more reason to be glad it's over and glad you didn't get more invested in a mistake. Good luck. Thank goodness opinions are like A**holes, everyone has one. I have many tattoos and they are mine, they explain things about me I was not able to put into words so I became a canvas and let art do the talking. Don't get me wrong, some tats are... well, interesting. But to the person who has them they may have a profound meaning. Judging a book by the cover is usually not a good idea.
loverofloveandstuff Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 It has nothing to do with tattoo>you. Hate to break it to you but not everything he does is about you. As the others said, go NC.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 Thank goodness opinions are like A**holes, everyone has one. I have many tattoos and they are mine, they explain things about me I was not able to put into words so I became a canvas and let art do the talking. Don't get me wrong, some tats are... well, interesting. But to the person who has them they may have a profound meaning. Judging a book by the cover is usually not a good idea. You seem to be overlooking the fact that no book has ever painted its own cover!!! And the, um, "things about (you that you were) not able to put into words" comprise precisely the grab-bag for which we have no interest in reaching. Most of the time we couldn't care less about the tattoo itself, it's the absurd decision you willingly made to put it there (all too often in direct response to some other decision which you didn't get to make) which suggests directing our attention elsewhere. So why would we want to risk anything on a partner or an associate with a clear history of absurd decision-making?
Author LoveBug1989 Posted December 24, 2010 Author Posted December 24, 2010 I'm inbetween the anger and depression stage of this breakup ATM.....Im now realizing that this may be his way to take his mind off things and try to start a new chapter in his life...I felt guilty once I had cooled off and thought about it. I make up 100 scenarios in my head about what happened in situations....I just need to calm down and start focusing on myself, giving him space and healing.
paleblue Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 good plan. as much as it sucks right now. he is obviously thinking only of himself. you sound like a giver, he sounds like a taker. dont know about this..
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