Ariadne Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 I'm honestly 9.5! Even people tell me in stores where I go that I have a happy energy to me. I guess what would make it a 10 would be to have a house and husband.
Ariadne Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Oh, and I give thanks every day for every blessing and I know that it all can change in one second.
tigressA Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 I'm at a 10. Have been for awhile now. Have my off moments here and there, but so does everyone. I love my job, I have great friends who I get to see regularly, I've started paying off my student loan debt and saving money, I get to see my family for Christmas, and I have plans to relocate to a nearby lively urban metropolis within the next year. Life is awesome, and it's only going to get better.
Star Gazer Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 I'm at a 10. Life is awesome, and it's only going to get better. On a scale of 1-10, your latter comment is impossible! Haha... Kidding.
Star Gazer Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 I give thanks every day for every blessing and I know that it all can change in one second. How true that is, Ariadne. I was almost killed today by an oil tanker that totaled my car inches from my face, and I have to keep reminding myself that it's not the end of the world. I'm alive. I'm lucky to be alive. For that, I think I'm back to an 8.
sweetjasmine Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 But what we all know I need is a furry little friend to replace human companionship. Adopting my furry little friend bumped me up a point or two. We all know what I need to do now -- get a new couch for SO to sleep on so that kitty can have his pillow.
tigressA Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 On a scale of 1-10, your latter comment is impossible! Haha... Kidding. I just thought of This Is Spinal Tap...
Ariadne Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 How true that is, Ariadne. I was almost killed today by an oil tanker that totaled my car inches from my face, and I have to keep reminding myself that it's not the end of the world. I'm alive. I'm lucky to be alive. For that, I think I'm back to an 8. OMG! How scary SG!!!!!! Glad to hear that you are OK and that it was just a scare. Sorry about your car. Hugs xo
impz Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Let's see, I will say 9.5? I have a good career, and my future has been somewhat set up (unless I royally screwed up) for a while. I have no debts, my family is good, I am saving up money, I am going on a well-earned vacation, I am happily married to the sweetest woman of my life. Only bad thing is probably how I need more work @ work. I am sadly a workaholic. :<
Star Gazer Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Adopting my furry little friend bumped me up a point or two. Yeah, I know. I really am considering getting a dog soon. The best part of my day today was when I entered the tow/repair shop where my car was taken today (I was there to collect the contents of my trunk), and was greeted by the sweetest yellow small lab in the world. She had a pink collar and sat with me while I waited for them to bring my stuff out. She looked at me with the sweetest eyes and put her paw up on my lap. We played a little game of "shake." She really brightened my day, and she's not even mine. The simplest things like that can make me so happy.
pandagirl Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 I don't want to come off as a grinch, but anyone who says they're are at a 10 on a regular basis... All I can think of is the saying, "ignorance is bliss." Am I grateful and thankful for everything I have? Of course! I remind myself constantly how lucky I am in life. But, happiness is an emotion, it comes and goes -- not some tangible thing like a car, health or a person. I will always be OK. I will always be fine. But I am still unsure what happiness feels like. I've had glimpses of it and it's always been when I've felt satisfied and happy with myself. Loving myself, essentially.
Ariadne Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 I am single - despite giving it 200% to find a relationship, my job is on the line, I took on a mortgage that I am not sure I will be able to pay off, both of my parents are very ill, I am slowly losing my friends. It's hard to imagine things getting a lot worse. Sigh... You got over your boss and have been going out with tons of guys, so that increases your chances of meeting the one. At least now you are actually liking some of those guys and like they say back home: don't hurry old horse up the hill, patience. Your job you did an amazing presentation, got to travel, and are a PhD no less. Leave the worry for people that are unemployed for ages. The house you'll manage like you do always, no worries. And your parents, at least you are close to them. I imagine sometimes what would I do if I had unlimited money, and it'd be to go with my parents. They say that that's what you should be doing, so at least you get to have them. And the friends, well, I'm sure the bff likes you a whole bunch for what you've said and I can't imagine her not wanting to be your friend. I'm still writing emails with my bffs from back home in hs. The heart is big and has room for more than one friend. You just need to be a little more positive. Imagine, so many tragedies in this life.
sweetjasmine Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Yeah, I know. I really am considering getting a dog soon. The best part of my day today was when I entered the tow/repair shop where my car was taken today (I was there to collect the contents of my trunk), and was greeted by the sweetest yellow small lab in the world. She had a pink collar and sat with me while I waited for them to bring my stuff out. She looked at me with the sweetest eyes and put her paw up on my lap. We played a little game of "shake." She really brightened my day, and she's not even mine. The simplest things like that can make me so happy. Aww, that's sweet. And, yep, the smallest things can really turn things around even on a monumentally crappy day. Watching all the goofy things my kitten does always cheers my SO and me up. Taking care of her helps give me perspective, if that makes sense. I'm glad to hear you're okay, SG. That must've been absolutely terrifying.
tigressA Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 I will always be OK. I will always be fine. But I am still unsure what happiness feels like. I've had glimpses of it and it's always been when I've felt satisfied and happy with myself. Loving myself, essentially. I think this is why I'm so happy most of the time--I love myself. Sometimes a little too much. But I do! I'm happy with who I am as a person, what I've accomplished and squeezed out of life so far and now, and look forward to things I'll accomplish in the future. There are things about myself that need working on, sure, but instead of dwelling on them I do the work, while focusing on the positives already there and delighting in my journey of self-improvement. Wow, I sounded like some shiny happy douche, didn't I? :laugh:
threebyfate Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 OG, I'm sorry to hear that you feel so unhappy but I'm going to agree with Ariadne that there are positive sides to life, no matter how bad. As for myself, can't put a numeric rating to it but there's nothing else I want in the world beyond what I've already been blessed with. Hold it, one thing, for Bump to be potty trained. Solids don't help.
sb129 Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Brutal honesty please. I am currently a 2. I am single - despite giving it 200% to find a relationship, my job is on the line, I took on a mortgage that I am not sure I will be able to pay off, both of my parents are very ill, I am slowly losing my friends. It's hard to imagine things getting a lot worse. Why are you losing your friends? Is there something you can do about that? You AREN'T about to be fired, you know that deep down. There are lots of things that bug me, but if I am in a funk, I think about one of my best friends who is desperate to get pregnant but can't, or I think about my friend who nearly died after the birth of her child while her dad was dying of cancer down the hall, or I think about my mum who so lonely because my dad died last year, or my aunt who lost her mother, her brother and her husband in the space of four months, or I think about all the children and animals in the world who go to sleep hungry or sick or abused or neglected. Then I think that my life isn't so bad after all. OG, saying you are a 2 on the happiness scale is an insult to people who really have something to be miserable about. Try reading this or this story to see if it helps your perspective.
sb129 Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 OG, I'm sorry to hear that you feel so unhappy but I'm going to agree with Ariadne that there are positive sides to life, no matter how bad. As for myself, can't put a numeric rating to it but there's nothing else I want in the world beyond what I've already been blessed with. Hold it, one thing, for Bump to be potty trained. Solids don't help. Chickadee, potty training is a wee (ha!) way off!
threebyfate Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Chickadee, potty training is a wee (ha!) way off!*puts on a permanent clothespin* WMDs!
threebyfate Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Yes, by the time you get used to it, they're potty trained. But I'm joking about finding it that disturbing. It's a job that needs to get done and the negative aspects just ensure that you get them done as quickly and efficiently as possible. He's taken to solids like I've never fed him before. He's growing like a weed. Takes after his father.
griffinchicken53 Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 I'm at a 4, girl I was interested in I think is seeing someone and is probably going to move. That and no job, wonder how many chances I missed to date anyone cuz I had no money
Sivok Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Right now I'd say I'm at a 4. I don't preach doom and gloom, but I've been hovering around numbness for a few months now. Last fall I was the happiest I've ever been - felt great about myself, was extremely confident, no worries, and had this aura people would comment on. I'm trying to get back to that 10, but I don't know how to reach it.
Els Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 At this point of time, probably an 8 or 9. Things are really looking up - I've found contentment with my relationship, we're finally living together after 2+ years of distance, I'll finally be switching to a course I love after slogging for 4 years in one that I hated, and I'm in a much nicer country than my homeland. As you can tell though, a mere 6 months ago I was probably at 3.
impz Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 I think this is why I'm so happy most of the time--I love myself. Sometimes a little too much. But I do! I'm happy with who I am as a person, what I've accomplished and squeezed out of life so far and now, and look forward to things I'll accomplish in the future. There are things about myself that need working on, sure, but instead of dwelling on them I do the work, while focusing on the positives already there and delighting in my journey of self-improvement. Wow, I sounded like some shiny happy douche, didn't I? :laugh: Sounds exactly how I am feeling most of the time, but put in a quaint and succinct way. I once told my wife that if I didn't learn something new (information, myself or whatever) on any given day, that day is a total waste. I haven't gotten many wasted days as yet! That is why I put myself on a 9.5. It's impossible to be 10, because there will always be things to get you down, but I get up again pretty darn quickly.
TheBigQuestion Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 I'm probably around a 4 right now. It used to be better, but as anyone who is reading the business subforum knows, I may have done poorly in my first semester of law school and it has triggered a quarter-life crisis of sorts. However, I am grateful for the reassuring words of posters on here like Star Gazer and others. I have numerous real life friends who have been nothing but supportive as well, saying that even if I did do poorly, I still have an opportunity to improve immensely, particularly because I already know exactly what I need to change. I'm looking into counseling to help sort out this quarter life crisis, and I'm also going to look into getting tested for ADHD since I've long suspected of having it and if so would explain a lot about my work and school habits. I've also found my first serious romantic prospect in almost two years who is absolutely in love with me. I should be happier about this than I am, but I just have too much other stuff to sort out in my life right now.
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