chancellor Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Ok so this cute girl in school complimented me on my jacket today and a few minutes later suggested we go for coffee during the holidays. Should I assume she's interested?
january2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Yes. Go for the coffee and take it from there.
jetset22 Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 yes. if a girl asks you to take her somewhere instead of waiting for you to ask it is fairly safe to assume she is interested in spending time with you and getting to know you..
musemaj11 Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Should I assume she's interested? No, she is obviously not interested. If she were interested she would have asked you to go somewhere and eat a bunch of caramels instead.
Author chancellor Posted December 22, 2010 Author Posted December 22, 2010 Thanks guys! I had lunch with her and a friend of ours, and when our friend went to the bathroom she asked whether I'd get together with her. So I guess she's interested in spending time alone with me... I thought she was very cute and never would've had the courage to ask her out!
joeLove Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Great ... Sounds like you have fun too ...:D:D Now grow some balls and make sure she is not the one .. taking the initiative every time ... Joe. Thanks guys! I had lunch with her and a friend of ours, and when our friend went to the bathroom she asked whether I'd get together with her. So I guess she's interested in spending time alone with me... I thought she was very cute and never would've had the courage to ask her out!
Feelin Frisky Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 You'll regret it forever if you blow this, dude. She's made it easy for you. Now, like the above poster put it, grow some daggone nuts and get her. Get her for all of us. (And report back).
Author chancellor Posted December 22, 2010 Author Posted December 22, 2010 Thanks for your replies! But none of you suggested she might just want to be friends.
Feelin Frisky Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Thanks for your replies! But none of you suggested she might just want to be friends. Hey man, don't defeat yourself by thinking that. Don't even go there. She made a move on you--so, don't let her get any ideas that you're just some safe putz to chit chat with. If she starts backing off like she didn't mean to make first contact with you then you can back the truck up if you're into being friend zoned. But right now the ball is in your court to set the tone you want. Trust me, if this girl is as cute as you say, you will ALWAYS regret not taking that risk. You're young--and it may seem to you like this will happen again time and again. It DOESN'T for most people. It does for the aggressive who want to build a life-style about womanizing. But it doesn't for most guys. Don't squander it if she's a real beauty. Having her will lift your ego up at other times in your life as you age. You can say, hey, I was hot enough to land her. If you punt and act like a passive friend boy, you can't ever know. Find out, man. Find out. I'm probably twice your age and know all too well how it goes. And I was as hot as they come during the 16-23 years. Girls don't throw themselves at men--or if they do, men don't always happen to be in the right places at the right times to be their muses. Knock-knock. Who's there? Destiny.
joeLove Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 I seem to detect a pattern here ... You focus too much on what SHE wants ... Hombre, what do YOU want? Have you figured it out yet? Or are you just going on a ride ... wherever she might take you ... Take charge, man ... LEAD the way ... she has already told you, she likes your taste in certain things, she says she likes to hang out with you, she likes your sense of humor and all that ... what else do you need? You need to develop some 'Alpha Male' type qualities ... Joe Thanks for your replies! But none of you suggested she might just want to be friends.
somedude81 Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Some guys are just freaken lucky, <grumble grumble>
january2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Thanks for your replies! But none of you suggested she might just want to be friends. To be fair, I didn't really say either way And you're not going to know whether she just wants to be friends or wants more until you get to know her better. So go on the coffee date. What do you have to lose? Methinks that you're just stalling. Don't overthink it. The more you delay, the easier it will be to talk yourself out of it. Don't do that. Just go for it. And report back.
musemaj11 Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Thanks for your replies! But none of you suggested she might just want to be friends. Are you freaking serious? Why would she wanna have an alone time with you if she just wanna be friends with you?
Feelin Frisky Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 I seem to detect a pattern here ... You focus too much on what SHE wants ... Hombre, what do YOU want? Have you figured it out yet? Or are you just going on a ride ... wherever she might take you ... Take charge, man ... LEAD the way ... she has already told you, she likes your taste in certain things, she says she likes to hang out with you, she likes your sense of humor and all that ... what else do you need? You need to develop some 'Alpha Male' type qualities ... Joe Word, Joe. Word.
runner Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 i'm waiting for some female perspective on this thread
somedude81 Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Are you freaking serious? Why would she wanna have an alone time with you if she just wanna be friends with you? Logically it doesn't make sense. But women aren't bound by logic. I've been alone with plenty of girls who wanted nothing more than to be my friend. Then they get surprised when I try to make a move
january2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 i'm waiting for some female perspective on this thread I'm female.
denise_xo Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Ok so this cute girl in school complimented me on my jacket today and a few minutes later suggested we go for coffee during the holidays. Should I assume she's interested? Yes. i'm waiting for some female perspective on this thread Checked.
Allisha Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 she's clearly interested in you. I personally don't know any girl who would, while with friends, ask a guy directly to spend some time alone with her. I really don't understand why guys like this become so skeptical and question a good thing. Insecurity maybe? OP, I'd lose whatever it is that's making you question her. Insecurity, skepticism, whatever. She'll pick up on it and you will (I'm more than sure) get friendzoned. Then I can see you waltzing back to this thread going, "well, I was right!!! she only wanted to be friends!" Relax & go spend time ALONE with her. I think if you meet up with a friend again she'll think it's purely a friendly relationship and that you're not interested.
runner Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 I'm female. whoops hmm. perhaps LS could have some sort of gender icon beside nick names ? hard to tell with the new members around here.
runner Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 oh and perhaps i should say something 'on topic' for once OP- yea she's interested. but interested from a 'being curious' point of view. play it cool and don't assume anything at this point.
Feelin Frisky Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 l ... if she is interested she is quickly going to lose that interest if you don’t ask her out... Truer words were never spoken. Don't dawdle. Be a man fer cryin' out loud. Then report back.
DuskCrush Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Chancellor---the girl is interested! geeeeez IF YOU keep acting like this you'll make her just want to be friends.
Author chancellor Posted December 22, 2010 Author Posted December 22, 2010 UDPATE! I asked and she accepted!
carhill Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 OK, when and where and what? Specifics. We need specifics
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