Simone84 Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 There's a guy who's been working near where i live who's been flirting with me and going out of his way to come up to me and have a conversation and he's suggested we should get drinks and etc for a good couple of months now... But nothing ever happened and we just continued to chat occasionally... A few days ago they were wrapping up the job and were about to leave for good when he said we should catch up for that drink we'd been talking about and he gave me his phone number. I texted him my number and we had a brief chat but that was it. So the weekend passed but i didn't hear from him and i didn't contact him either about 'that drink'. Then a few days ago i texted him to see how his weekend was but he said he didn't do anything and i said we should catch up for that drink next weekend. He said he wasn't doing anything on Friday or Saturday and it just led to some more chitchat... So now i'm wondering whether he is expecting me to follow it up closer to the weekend and hit him up again or whether i should just leave it or is this guy just playing headgames or something...? I don't want to look like i'm chasing him but the thing is that HE gave me his number, it was HIS idea to get a drink in the first place and he said he wasn't doing anything this weekend... What does everyone think this guy's deal is? I wonder whether he's doing this so i'd show some interest and initiate something for a change, since it's been him for the last couple of months trying to hook something up but nothing ever eventuated really... Hope to hear your thoughts what i should do!
carhill Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Seems to me a player would want to get a few drinks in you and work on your pants next, but this guy doesn't seem to even want to start the engine, much less drive the car fast. I'd say go out with a guy who asks you out on a date. It's a foolproof method to ensure that you are dating LOL. Seriously
HereIAm30 Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 There's a guy who's been working near where i live who's been flirting with me and going out of his way to come up to me and have a conversation and he's suggested we should get drinks and etc for a good couple of months now... But nothing ever happened and we just continued to chat occasionally... A few days ago they were wrapping up the job and were about to leave for good when he said we should catch up for that drink we'd been talking about and he gave me his phone number. I texted him my number and we had a brief chat but that was it. So the weekend passed but i didn't hear from him and i didn't contact him either about 'that drink'. Then a few days ago i texted him to see how his weekend was but he said he didn't do anything and i said we should catch up for that drink next weekend. He said he wasn't doing anything on Friday or Saturday and it just led to some more chitchat... So now i'm wondering whether he is expecting me to follow it up closer to the weekend and hit him up again or whether i should just leave it or is this guy just playing headgames or something...? I don't want to look like i'm chasing him but the thing is that HE gave me his number, it was HIS idea to get a drink in the first place and he said he wasn't doing anything this weekend... What does everyone think this guy's deal is? I wonder whether he's doing this so i'd show some interest and initiate something for a change, since it's been him for the last couple of months trying to hook something up but nothing ever eventuated really... Hope to hear your thoughts what i should do! In my experience a guy will ask a woman out if he is interested. you shouldn't have to chase and btw this weekend is Christmas.
carhill Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Some cultures don't celebrate Christmas, as also some people don't. Regardless, a snail's slime is faster than this guy. He's no player, IMO.
Author Simone84 Posted December 22, 2010 Author Posted December 22, 2010 Lol! Thanks guys... Ok so he's not a player then... I just thought he might have been because it looks like he's totally turned the tables on me and now i feel like i'm a position where he's given me his number and I'M hitting HIM up whereas for the last two months he's been trying to hit ME up in person! And yeah i suggested Friday night - he said he's not doing anything on Friday night or even Saturday night. I said i've got an Xmas family thing on Saturdya night... And then there was a bit more chit-chat and that was basically it... Now it's up in the air i guess and i don't know what to do... Probably sounds silly i'm just a bit puzzled what to do lol!
carhill Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 The simplest move is not to play. Accept whichever firm date request (from any man) that matches up with your desires for date and man. If this man does not firm up a date, place and time at least two days prior, express your regrets.
sandcast123 Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 I agree. Don't spend any more time wondering when and if you will see him. Make your own plans. I agree that if he doesn't ask at least 2 days in advance, don't go. I made that mistake before and was more like a booty call for this one guy. A huge waste of my life. Don't waste yours. Go out with someone who wants you.
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