HereIAm30 Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 I have been dating my current boyfriend for a little over two months. From the beginning he has treated me well. He gave me a key to his apartment, took me to his work Christmas Party and introduced me to his friends. He spent Thanksgiving with me and my family/siblings, the same expected for Christmas. And than we have plans to go away for the New Years weekend. So I shouldn't have a weird feeling about things but now I do. Last weekend we did have an argument and thought we resolved it. I normally hear from him every night. Than this afternoon he textes me that he has to take a client to dinner. I thought it was a little weird he would text me to tell me that, seemed kind of random. So I texted him back saying "ok and? Does this mean you won't be calling me later?" he responds back "yes" and thats it. I than feel my insecurity taking over. It just seems kind of strange that he can't call me because of that.. I didn't question him or anything, just said "sounds like a late night but have a good time" He didn't respond back to me and hasn't since. He is an engineer and does meet with alot of clients/customers. But from what I know these "dinners" don't last all night. He could always call me after. Should I be suspicious?
ConfusedAsUsual Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 I don't know if suspicion is what you should be feeling, but something doesn't feel right about this. My first thought was that he texted you so he didn't have to 'get into' anything with you in a phone call. The terse 'yes' reply to your question is also kind of disconcerting, because I myself feel that any break in the normal routine of a relationship deserves some sort of explanation. I would definitely not contact him...let him make the next move. He broke routine...it's up to him to re-establish it. If you call him, you'll have no way of knowing if he ever had that intention because he'll only be communicating with you because YOU initiated it.
Cracker Jack Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 He was straight-up with what he was going to do tonight; it's not like he hid anything. I don't think you need to be suspicious in this situation.
ConfusedAsUsual Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 He was straight-up with what he was going to do tonight; it's not like he hid anything. I don't think you need to be suspicious in this situation. From what she knows he was upfront. But she's right about him not being able to call her later. And than he was a little "short" in the text. I don't know I think I would have a weird feeling too.
Author HereIAm30 Posted December 22, 2010 Author Posted December 22, 2010 I don't want to feel insecure about him. I really don't. He hasn't given me any reason to doubt him. But I just have a weird feeling. Maybe its because we argued over the weekend, the honeymoon phase is over. It was the first time we ever argued. I hate that feeling like this.
ConfusedAsUsual Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Or maybe he just doesn't feel like talking tonight? And doesn't want to say "I don't feel like talking tonight"
Author HereIAm30 Posted December 22, 2010 Author Posted December 22, 2010 Or maybe he just doesn't feel like talking tonight? And doesn't want to say "I don't feel like talking tonight" I would rather be told that. He barely said anything to me or my textes.
ConfusedAsUsual Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 I would rather be told that. He barely said anything to me or my textes. Well you don't wanna call him. Maybe he wants to see how you will react from a change in routine? See if you will play it cool or freak out and get clingy.
Author HereIAm30 Posted December 22, 2010 Author Posted December 22, 2010 He was straight-up with what he was going to do tonight; it's not like he hid anything. I don't think you need to be suspicious in this situation. As straight up as it gets in a text message I suppose.. There is something to be said about womens intuition though. Should I question him tomorrow?
Cracker Jack Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Sure, go ahead and question him. I mean, you admit that he's given you no reason to not trust him, so I don't see why--but that's just me. And while a woman's intuition can be quite accurate, in all likelihood, it's just your insecurity looking for something that isn't really there.
Author HereIAm30 Posted December 22, 2010 Author Posted December 22, 2010 Sure, go ahead and question him. I mean, you admit that he's given you no reason to not trust him, so I don't see why--but that's just me. And while a woman's intuition can be quite accurate, in all likelihood, it's just your insecurity looking for something that isn't really there. Well I feel like a total idiot. He just sent me a text saying "good night love". I have some insecurity issues to deal with before I scare him away. thanks for the kind words.
Cracker Jack Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 That was nice to read. Glad he eased your mind with the text.
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