drmrid13 Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 :bunny:Hello all, Ok, so this september my ex (we were together for almost a year) broke up with me. It has almost been four months since we broke up, however he has contacted me every week, yet recently the contact has elevated. There was almost a two week period where I didn't hear from him at all, so I figured I should give up hope, I started seeing someone else (this was almost a month ago.) He contacted me in a panic because he had lost his phone and he was lucky that he found my number on a piece of paper in his room. He hoped I didn't hate him and (as he very often mentions he misses me). I told him I was seeing someone else and he flipped and said he wanted to get back together. He even said he wanted me to move in with him. I told him ok that night but I was scared as hell. So the next day he was texting me a whole bunch about our new situation and how excited he was, but I texted him back saying sorry I changed my mind and couldn't do it because I was too scared. He's seeing some other girl but they ARE NOT dating. He told me he was going to tell her they couldn't hang out anymore but I didn't trust it. They are still hanging out, three days after my proposition I felt like I missed out and made a mistake. He knows this but he said now it wouldn't have been a good idea if we got back together because he loves me so much and doesn't want to hurt me ever again and he s afraid he will. He took me out the day before my birthday and he asked me to please work with him so he can figure his S*** out. We are "friends" in the meantime but honestly thats not what I want. I told him this on friday and he said he was so sorry that it s working out this way, but I should do what I need to (take time to reflect on the situation like I told him i was going to) because he NEEDS me in his life. There's much more to this but its getting lenghty! PLEASE HELPPPP! IDK what to do, I wish I could escape this limbo, I still love him like crazy because when I need him he will be there for me, but not THERE for me the way I want, I want him back as my man.
HopeisallIhave Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 (edited) Sounds complicated on both ends. I am no expert, but I have lived a full life, and can tell you I would take a few weeks or even a month off from eachother so you can both figure you little hot messes out. THis is not what you want to hear I know. Or, and this is is just coming from a regular guy but, you can take him to a park, or the beach, or mountains. A place where it's just you guys. And just talk it out then and there. Make a decision that you aren't going to go back home without figuring out where you both stand in this "whatever" you guys have going on. Be strong woman and put your foot down. I know first hand, a strong woman just broke my heart in pieces after 12 years. And finally, you said he said he needs you, he should not need you, he should want you. I know becasue I need my ex, and I am learning the difference betwwen wanting and needing every day. Edited December 22, 2010 by HopeisallIhave
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