chucksbabygurl17 Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Well my boyfriend and I well were are in a really big hole because we fight alot and half of the time we cant stand being around eachother I wrote all of this in my last post how he cheated on me and things like that I also wrote I was thinking about breaking up with him but I finally had the guts to stand up to him and told him how I felt about things and we talked for a very very long time and I asked him if he really did love me and if he really wanted to be with me or not his answer was yes he does love me and he wants to be with me and I asked him then if he really does love me than why does he continue to treat me this way when he knows it hurts me alot phisically and emotionally and he respond back and said that he has anger problems I told him then if he wants to be with me he has to get some anger mangement and if he dosent I am leaving and never comming back and he did agree I just hope he sticks to it because I want us to be back together like we used to because we been together for almost three years and I dont want to live like this forever well what advice I am asking is if you read my last post. was I right to give him a second chance or was I wrong too and I should just leave. I dont know if I did the wrong thing or write thing because I hoping it will change for the better but I dont know if it will or not.....
Seamless74 Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 I would just advise that while its natural to think all of this stems from his emotional problems and his abuse.. You might want to turn everything around and realize that if you think staying with someone like that makes sense than obviously its guilt by association you have issues and problems yourself. Birds of a feather u know? The only acceptable excuse for staying with someone who exhibits these traits is you have problems you need to deal with and stop blaming him.. He was that way long before you met him and he will be like that long after you and him are done. Its your fault for continuing to allow yourself to be in a bad situation..
Eddie Edirol Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 it wont change as long as youre still with him because he doesnt have to why should he when youre not going anywhere youve already made your mind up youre going to stay with him so youre going to find out the painful way hopefully he isnt just giving you lip service hopefully he really will seek anger management but as of now he doesnt need to change when you dont leave him until he finishes anger management. Wow its actually painful to type without punctation!
Surrealist Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 I think the major problem is your still young and your boy friend is still young and you guise need to grow and mature and learn how to treat each others with dignity and respect so youse stop fighting so much over trivial matters and when youse do get angry and fight to fight fairly and dont call each other naughty names or insults as this only makes the problems worser and worser but if youse cannot stand each other then maybe youse should conisder parting ways so as youse dont continue fighting and you can maybe also try having a break from each other as the absence makes the heart grow fonder and if after a long break youse find youse want to be back together you se can get back together and if youse find youse dont want to get back together then youse can leave each other in peace. Kind regards.
Author chucksbabygurl17 Posted December 23, 2010 Author Posted December 23, 2010 I will consider your guys advice I do love him and I do hope things work out between us and I know we are both still young and we have along ways until me and him can find ourselfs I dont like to fight with him at all but I really do think if things dont get any better from here on he is going to find out he is not going to have me much longer cause I am not going to put up with this much longer...
Yer_Blues Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 I think the major problem is your still young and your boy friend is still young and you guise need to grow and mature and learn how to treat each others with dignity and respect so youse stop fighting so much over trivial matters and when youse do get angry and fight to fight fairly and dont call each other naughty names or insults as this only makes the problems worser and worser but if youse cannot stand each other then maybe youse should conisder parting ways so as youse dont continue fighting and you can maybe also try having a break from each other as the absence makes the heart grow fonder and if after a long break youse find youse want to be back together you se can get back together and if youse find youse dont want to get back together then youse can leave each other in peace. Kind regards. your posts never disappoint.
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