HopeisallIhave Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 (edited) Ok, its Tuesday 12/21. I have officially dropped off the face of the earth. NC begins. I won't give up. This is my second round. I went 3 weeks and broke but I know what to expect now. No magic words or gift will bring them back. We can try until we are blue in the face, it just doesn't work. I'm hoping it will be most effective becasue for the last 3 months since the break-up I have kept in touch, kept sending emails and a few calls to the occasional response. Now pooof. I'm a ghost. In some twisted way even though women despise it I think deep inside they like the attention us men give when we long for them so bad after a break-up. My first NC during the holidays was as challenging as it gets, but I will do this. I tried for 2 1/2 - 3 weeks but she new I was going to break, I know she did. 2 days, 2 months, 2 years....whatever it takes. I cant believe I am doing this but here I go. I'm going to keep working out for 2 hours a day as a have been, keep busy with work hobbies and friends, and I might get back up on stage to play guitar and sing again. I have been an avid musician my whole life but have stopped over the past few years...maybe its time to go out and play some open mics. By the way I didn't jump into this NC decision just to break it again. I spent over 12 hours on my day off yesterday contemplating the most logical and effective way to handle this situation. Even though the answer is right there in front of you, you know there is that voice that says "what if she knew this new thing about you" or "she will get this gift (email or voice mail) and melt" or "what if she saw your new car, or apartment" You know what I'm getting at. Don't listen to that voice!!! Wish we luck guys. Edited December 21, 2010 by HopeisallIhave
homebrew Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 I wish you luck... You say you want her back... Then proof it! You know that contacting her pushes her away, makes her dislike you, makes her not respect you, makes her pitty you, makes her upset, makes her think less of you, makes her not want to be with you even less, etc. If you break NC (facebook included)... You obviously want to suffer and feel pain. So if you are considering breaking NC just hit yourself in the head with a hammer... I mean as hard as you can! 1. You will knock yourself out cold... Therefore you will not be able to contact, respond or look at your Exes facebook. 2. Once you wake back up, I promise... it will hurt far less than if you broke NC. 3. It will prevent you from RUINING your chance of getting her back! Hope that helps!
january2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 The thoughts about "what if...?" are normal. Unfortunately, you still have to go through that stage - there's no way around it. Stay strong. Keep working out and focusing on yourself. Good luck. You can do it.
Author HopeisallIhave Posted December 21, 2010 Author Posted December 21, 2010 Your response gave me my first laugh of the day. I will put a hammer next to my computer. Thanks for the support by the way. So right about fb, in fact thats how I broke NC the first time after 3 long weeks. Broke down and checked the fb day after Thanksgiving only to see her relationship status change after 12 years. Can someone say OUCH. Its funny fb puts a heart by the text showing it changed...but it should be a broken heart of the sig other that is suffering most.
homebrew Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Your response gave me my first laugh of the day. I will put a hammer next to my computer. Thanks for the support by the way. So right about fb, in fact thats how I broke NC the first time after 3 long weeks. Broke down and checked the fb day after Thanksgiving only to see her relationship status change after 12 years. Can someone say OUCH. Its funny fb puts a heart by the text showing it changed...but it should be a broken heart of the sig other that is suffering most. Like I said... hitting yourself hard in the head with a hammer will not hurt as much as breaking NC (facebook included). Also, you recover from the damage that the hammer does a lot quicker too!
fiat500 Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 facebook is cruel like that. that's also something i noticed. "so and so went from being in a relationship to being single! <3" they might as well have an animated gif of confetti showering down and wine glasses toasting too. also a gif of a salt shaker right next to the user's name who gets dumped. thanks facebook.
Author HopeisallIhave Posted December 21, 2010 Author Posted December 21, 2010 Classic. Yes confetti. Like fireworks bursting out..hip hip horray! Sh-t.
Author HopeisallIhave Posted December 22, 2010 Author Posted December 22, 2010 Come to think of it my relationship took a bit of a turn after fb and mysp started. They get so much attention don't they! Women especially. Did I say especially! Just as in life. Put a hot girl and hansome guy in the same room and the chick gets hit on more. Anyways she doesn't have that "luxury" to check on me as I have never had a mysp or fb account. But hell, I am single (not by choice) after 12 years of staying faithful, what is to stop me from getting one now?! Anyways...
delajoonal Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 oh facebook....where my XH met his EA/OW and left me for her 2 years ago..nice huh... yes i am one of THOSE stories u hear about, but never really KNOW that person...yep, that is me...perty sucky! after 15 years of marriage, i was left for a 5 week EA on FB...wtf? anyway...here is what i did : after MANY months of damning FB..i decided to make fb work for me.. and boy did it ever.. i blocked THE 2 NAMES, my xh and his OW, and went on to meet up with new people and SO MANY old friends...nice...having a blast! i also met my xbf...we had grown up together and were reunited on fb. dated 11 months to the day...i ended that...so all in all, fb has brought about MANY emotions..good and bad...but i refuse to give up my only contact with SO many of my amazing dear friends..as i live in the mountains now and i SO NEED fb to communicate... but i still have my XH and his OW blocked, haven't looked back...i now have a new name on that block list, the xbf from this past year...live and learn...right. it just takes a little will power and strenght and persaveriance... go LIVE your life..on facebook or off facebook...but don't give up what makes u happy or keeps u connected to friends and family all because of ONE person...that's why fb made a 'block this person' list...LOL GOOD LUCK ~hopesallihave~ i am cheerin' u on..u can do this!!!!!:bunny:
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