Lishy Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Do guy really go on 4 dates, have a really fun time, initiate contact all the time, make plans for the next date on the present one and yet not make a move for a kiss? This is happening to me right now and it is sooo confusing! He is respectful and shows so much interest in other ways What do you think? Has this happened to you?
samspade Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Heh, well I'm a guy but I can definitely say I did this in my less confident moments of my wussy past. He's just afraid to make the move. I wish I could travel back in time and go for the kiss on every chick who I knew was simply begging for it. I'm sure you're sending all the right signals. And I'm sure a lot of guys will tell you that it's cool for you to make the first move, but I disagree. He should grab you and kiss you.
Author Lishy Posted December 21, 2010 Author Posted December 21, 2010 I really cant make that move, i think that is down to the guy and I want a guy who will make that move Its quite sweet in some ways and he kisses me on the mouth when we say goodbye but its almost as if he is scared ... dont know why as I am not that scarey lol I am seeing him on Thursday
musemaj11 Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Personally I always took things very slow. But thats because I grew up in a more conservative society. I dont know about his background. If you feel the moment is right and he seems to be glancing at your lips a lot, just go for it.
Author Lishy Posted December 21, 2010 Author Posted December 21, 2010 Personally I always took things very slow. But thats because I grew up in a more conservative society. I dont know about his background. If you feel the moment is right and he seems to be glancing at your lips a lot, just go for it. It has been 2 weeks now ... that is super long!
Feelin Frisky Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 I really cant make that move, i think that is down to the guy and I want a guy who will make that move Its quite sweet in some ways and he kisses me on the mouth when we say goodbye but its almost as if he is scared ... dont know why as I am not that scarey lol I am seeing him on Thursday I would suggest not throwing this guy away because he doesn't appear aggressive enough. He may be very forward after this threshold has been passed through but he's being considerate to the point of fault on making that move. If a women is ready and wants to tell him welcome to physicality, she should signal that without laying back and waiting. He doesn't know--he's apparently inexperienced--he's unsure of your body language--he's not making the move. Now you've let it get to a point where you're getting turned off buy it. No one is keep score on you and giving you style points for who does what first. That's all your secret. TAKE what YOU WANT when YOU WANT IT. It may prove that this guys IS a wuss but he may turn out to be the best lover you'll have too. Meet him half way. You don't have to lead with your tongue and kiss him like a pass-around slut. Just take the moment and move forward. No one else will know. Good luck.
Author Lishy Posted December 22, 2010 Author Posted December 22, 2010 it is so weird as I have never come across this before ...
Eddie Edirol Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Im surprised you havent run into this before when you refuse to make a move. If the guy is shy, hes probably reading negative body language from you. You have to make yourself more inviting for him to make a move. Dont write him off because of your principles that dont want to work for something. or wait another few weeks...
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