Pfiend101 Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 Sending text's is clingy? I used to text my ex everyday telling her to have a good day. hmm Just thought I was being nice. Not like I sent 30 a day or anything......
Author OceanGirl Posted December 23, 2010 Author Posted December 23, 2010 Sending text's is clingy? I used to text my ex everyday telling her to have a good day. hmm Just thought I was being nice. Not like I sent 30 a day or anything...... It's not really clingy but I have never met the guy and don't feel AS strongly about him. It's all about reciprocity. For example, I am not really missing him and he sends me 3 texts in a row. I just feel a bit :S The he attempts to have a conversation of why I haven't responded to his texts. I guess if I was crazy about him I would love the attention but at this point I am just not...
Pfiend101 Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 oh ya. That drives me nuts. I went on two dates with a girl and she was facebok stalking me sending 7+ texts at a time when I wasn't answering. Good luck!
Author OceanGirl Posted December 24, 2010 Author Posted December 24, 2010 I canceled the date with guy #3... My heart isn't in it and I couldn't go through with it. He has sent me a number of really dumb texts yesterdays like "helloooo wassup?" etc etc (he is 32) This morning we had the following text exchange just to give you an idea of his level of clinginess: Him:Still set for today hun? Him: Should I get ready? Me: Sorry I can't make it today. Have to go to my family's place earlier than expected (I am lying but what can you do) Him: DAMN IT Him:Oh ok. Been excited and waiting all week. Have a good time and xmass with your family. Me: Thanks. You too. Him:Let me know when you want to catch up again. I am free all next week and the weekend. Me: OK Him: Hope so,really worried here that you have lost interest. Him (again): so what day next week is good? Him(again): we can hang out for NYE if you like Him (again): i really want to kiss you .............. ARGH
Cracker Jack Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 He should've just left it alone after his 4th text.
Author OceanGirl Posted December 24, 2010 Author Posted December 24, 2010 Potential guy #4. I got this message this morning. Not sure if I like it yet.. --------------------- Loved your profile. It has a sweet, funny if somewhat melancholic vibe to it. My favorite thing in the world is learning, listening to people who have worked hard to develop themselves and clearly you have! So I would love to learn more:) I have a passion for business and marketing and being a business owner I have had a lot of fun applying my ideas and learnings in the marketplace and watching what happens. Sometimes good, sometimes bad most of the time somewhere in between but always a lesson to tuck away in the old scone! Anyway enough rambling usually not this chatty straight off I just felt like the "cyber you" was welcoming and easy to talk to, so I did. Random Facts: * I live in <suburb where my parents live> built a home there 4 years ago * My favourite place in the world is my library * Love business - this is my company <website> * Love natural affection, warmth,a very homey person by nature * I dream big and love the challenge of chasing them down * Big goals next year: Bump into that special one:) Roll out my business in Queensland Set up a permanent residence on Hamlton Island for regular visits during the year instead of XMAS break only! Live a little Hope to hear some more about you
Star Gazer Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 Guy #4 sounds like he could be great for you, OG! He sounds emotionally healthy and like he's got his sh*t together, and well-balanced.
Ariadne Posted December 24, 2010 Posted December 24, 2010 Potential guy #4. I'm sick of guys already I couldn't even finish the post. Not sure if you are doing it to escape already.
Author OceanGirl Posted December 24, 2010 Author Posted December 24, 2010 Ariadne, try online dating - it's crazy SG, guy #4 also appears to be loaded (not that it matters but I admire people that are driven and ambitious).
Author OceanGirl Posted December 24, 2010 Author Posted December 24, 2010 I think that I dodged the bullet with guy#3. He is texting me all day even after me canceling at the last minute. He is also asking things like "What happened to turn you off me??" "Am I going to see you?" etc This is a huge turn off. I initially thought that he is probably too good looking for me but his behavior and over-eagerness is just I responded to guy #4 and am now waiting to see if I will hear from him again. Meanwhile I am really missing guy#1 and regret canceling him. He was just so hot I keep stalking his OKC profile and restraining myself from getting in contact. He was a real d%ck after I canceled at the last minute. I found that he has a profile on another online dating site. In "what he is looking for" he has put "Confident, strong woman who knows what she wants. Someone very outgoing and social. I am not into sweet, innocent girls" I totally DO NOT fit that description But physical chemistry makes it hard for me completely forget him. I am still hoping that he will call/text/OKC message me. I hate to say it, but I will see him again if he does.
Author OceanGirl Posted December 25, 2010 Author Posted December 25, 2010 Guy #4 got back to me but he is going away on holidays now and won't be back until the 8th...... I was going to suggest having coffee when he gets back but it's probably wise to slow it down and let him ask me. He also lives just a few streets down from where I bought my new place - we are within walking distance
youngskywalker Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 Not saying this to be a jerk... I'm just following up from your other post and I'm curious. So if all three guys are cute are you going to try to make out with all three?
Author OceanGirl Posted December 25, 2010 Author Posted December 25, 2010 No..... Guy #1 was hot and we had 1 date. I made out with him heavily and we were supposed to have 2nd date at my place. I ended up canceling because I wasn't ready for full on sex. He got pissed off at me for canceling and I haven't heard from him since. Guy#2 - we had 1 date. Wasn't attracted to him at all and didn't even touch him. Don't want to see him again. Guy #3 - was so clingy and desperate before the 1st date that I ended up canceling and don't plan on meeting him. Guy#4 - we just started corresponding and so far he seems to be a LTR material. I will restrain myself from getting physical if we end up meeting. He is going to get a peck at most on the 1st date.
Star Gazer Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 OG, please go see your terminally ill parents and put dating aside for now. It's Christmas.
Author OceanGirl Posted December 25, 2010 Author Posted December 25, 2010 OG, please go see your terminally ill parents and put dating aside for now. It's Christmas. Will do. My mum is picking me up in an hour (BTW only my dad is terminally ill and mum has some health problems but they are not terminal).
youngskywalker Posted December 25, 2010 Posted December 25, 2010 Guy#4 - we just started corresponding and so far he seems to be a LTR material. I will restrain myself from getting physical if we end up meeting. He is going to get a peck at most on the 1st date. Good! Do that and if he's at all interested he'll be back for more
Author OceanGirl Posted December 26, 2010 Author Posted December 26, 2010 Guys #1, 2 and 3 have all pretty much been scrapped. I would still be open to seeing guy 1 if I hear from him (but I know that it's a bad idea). Guy#4 is promising. We have been in a lot of contact and he has been completely consistent and stable. There are no red flags. He tells me how excited he is about me and has asked me to have dinner with him when he gets back form his holiday (he leaves tonight and is back on the 8th). One potential problem with him is that I don't how attracted I will be in person. He is cute in the pictures. Nothing spectacular though so we will see. I will be looking to fill spots 5 and 6 but nothing promising just yet...
Author OceanGirl Posted December 26, 2010 Author Posted December 26, 2010 Guy#4 has just sent me another message which I think is quite cute -------------------------- I am a bit sweaty after doing a bit of exercise at home and now going for a long walk at <name> River to walk off the festivities. * I am then heading to the airport at 11pm. If first impressions weren't so important I would have asked you to join me for a quick walk and hello. If hear a sexy accent behind me as I walk on the river I will know it's you! ) Night Take Care ---------------------------- *this is one of my favorite areas to go for walks - there are so many little things I have in common with this guy, it's weird
anned80 Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 OG - I think you made the right choice in dropping #3 - WAY too clingy given the fact that you hadn't even met yet. Ugh. That would be a huge, huge turnoff for me. I'm on OKC too... maybe we can give each other good awards and increase our chances! This sounds weird - but I enjoy all your posts on here because you sound exactly like me. How many dates are you normally going on each week? Maybe we can be a sounding board for each other to compare dates and help each other so we can stop going out with such losers! Let me know if you want to exchange info.
Star Gazer Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 Guy#4 has just sent me another message which I think is quite cute -------------------------- I am a bit sweaty after doing a bit of exercise at home and now going for a long walk at <name> River to walk off the festivities. * I am then heading to the airport at 11pm. If first impressions weren't so important I would have asked you to join me for a quick walk and hello. If hear a sexy accent behind me as I walk on the river I will know it's you! ) Night Take Care ---------------------------- *this is one of my favorite areas to go for walks - there are so many little things I have in common with this guy, it's weird I'm calling this one as a great guy!
Imajerk17 Posted December 26, 2010 Posted December 26, 2010 (edited) OceanGirl, I think you owe guy #3 an honest response, instead of going MIA: "Listen, you are just way too clingy for me and I am turned off. Please stop contacting me because I'm not going to respond." True, the guy acted as a douche, but you did cancel on him at the last minute. It would also save you from some more of his future texts. Edited December 26, 2010 by Imajerk17
Author OceanGirl Posted January 5, 2011 Author Posted January 5, 2011 I am meeting up with guy #4 in few minutes. Let's call him "The businessman". He arrived back from his holiday a few days early and called me up from the airport to ask to have an impromptu drink with him tonight. He is driving to my part of the city and we are meeting up at a bar. I accepted the last minute "date" as I am doing nothing anyway. We will see if there is a "spark". There is also a guy #5 now. I will nickname him "The artist" - from my other thread as I posted his profile there. The artist and me spoke on the phone today and he was really funny and easy to talk to. We are having coffee on Saturday afternoon. BTW guy #1 ditched me and I ditched #2 and #3.
Author OceanGirl Posted January 5, 2011 Author Posted January 5, 2011 Well that sucked. I am back already. He is really not my type looks wise. Also, the conversation was really forced. He kept jumping from topic to topic and not really discussing anything in depth. There were some inconsistencies with what he said in his e-mails and real life - making me feel like he is not being 100% honest. Basically, there was zero connection and I couldn't wait to get out of there. He was asking me "Are you nervous? You seem kind of nervous." and "You seem kind of shy.." I hate it when people say that. Those statements make me even more nervous. Ugh. Dates like this make me even sadder that the few guys I met and genuinely liked from online didn't work out. After I meet The artist, I am going to take a long break.
Eeyore79 Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 Imagine Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory? Well he is EXACTLY like him. He sounds like my dream man! I have a huge crush on Sheldon
northern_sky Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 I think your problem OG is that the selection where you are sucks. I remember looking on OKCupid in your neck of the woods a couple of months ago and there wasn't a single halfway desirable guy on there. I guess it's just not as popular in Australia. This is why you must move to the states. You should check out some of the New York hotties on the site.
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