Star Gazer Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 You know, I wasn't too great with money in my college years. I lived beyond my means in terms of material things, and entertainment. I accumulated some CC debt (nowhere near $40K though), but I learned my lesson. What are her spending/saving habits like NOW? I think the important thing to consider isn't how much money she spent in the past, but what she's doing to fix the problem and make sure it doesn't happen again.
Author Number 5 Posted December 23, 2010 Author Posted December 23, 2010 Didnt he say that she already wont even offer to pay on dates? If they get serious, sooner or later she will expect him to finance most if not all of her expenses while she pays off her debt (or not). Its basically gonna be the same thing. Exactly, that's the issue. Dude, you are clearly already in a pussy trance. Honestly I think you are already at a point of no return. I know because I have experienced something similar. Maybe you should just accept it. Forget the consequences. Well, I'm really close to the point of no return, but maybe not there yet. So close. I'm ever so slowly realizing that having the hot girlfriend might not be all that it's cracked up to be, no matter how good it feels. There is someone else that I know for a fact likes me for me, since a time when I didn't have a dime or a life (or was an adult lol or legal i should say, i probably don't qualify as an adult now even at 25). That someone doesn't light the fire the same way though, even though she does satisfy me emotionally. You know, I wasn't too great with money in my college years. I lived beyond my means in terms of material things, and entertainment. I accumulated some CC debt (nowhere near $40K though), but I learned my lesson. What are her spending/saving habits like NOW? I think the important thing to consider isn't how much money she spent in the past, but what she's doing to fix the problem and make sure it doesn't happen again. I'm probably the first person to make her realize this. Seems to me like her friends have all been negative influences that played some part in her problem, and the exes have not been so fiscally responsible. Maybe I'm the first one who considered her so seriously.
biochemgrl Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 I won't use credit cards unless it's a planned purchase. I only keep two to build and maintain credit and a emergency situation. Remember, add her car to that and anything else she owe's money on. That number is her actual debt. Wow, I hope she's ready to bust her ass to pay that off! Damn. I will not spend money I don't have. It's not easy to get totally "debt free" it was a long hard two years. (I paid my car and about 10K) Every penny I could pay, I paid. FREEDOM!! I dated a guy once who had no idea who he even owed. WTF? This guy must have a money tree. NOPE. He wanted to argue his way out with things. *******, your a TOOL. I'm not helping you to be a grown up, I thought you were a grown up. We didn't work out. No one will have perfect credit pasts but that's important to work on together on if your planning on a future-
Author Number 5 Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 WHOA, $40K CC debt is BAD BAD BAD I know. I've been out of contact with her for a couple of weeks almost. She emailed me asking to hang out for new year's. Having some time away has given me some time to clear my head and shake off the trance. It's a shame that something so good in some ways has to be spoiled so badly in another. I should be working to fix my broken LTR instead of thinking of this girl
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