shiftedblue Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 I do think I'm getting over him.. but something that annoys me is often I find myself wanting to flaunt my successes in his face. I'm graduating college summa cum laude (with highest honors) and I got asked out by a really good looking marine.......and I'm happy except all I really want is to send my ex an email saying "na na na na naaa" which tells me..I'm probably NOT as over it as I'm trying to convince myself. I don't want to be bitter but he really hurt me and in the last few months he really toyed with my head, as well, so I'm angry. I don't know how to forgive him, for whatever reason I have this desire to inflict pain upon him as much as he inflicted upon me.
paleblue Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 i know what you mean, i even work with my betrayer. for a really long time i wanted to throw a brick thru her car window, or i would become infuriated at the site of her. that went on for a long time, a couple years. and then one day it just changed. it kinda went away after seething in it for so long. its not completely gone, but it is far less now. i even decided to take the high road and say hi to each other here and there. that doesn't mean i have warm fuzzy feelings. i would still laugh if i saw her trip and fall in the hallway. or i might run thru that puddle if she's walking down the road. but it's getting better. it just took time. your anger will diminish over time. that is the only way. time. tick tock.
SimonSerenade Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Would seem your not totally 100% over him, I feel the worst is over for me at least, Though she never deserved my forgiveness, I gave it her regardless cause I didn't want to be one to hold a grudge, I'd sooner hope for her happiness rather than want her to go through the hell I went through, That's the part of love I never understand and now I'm being the better person and when you think of what you did and went through, You should be proud, He'll have himself to catch up with one day and he won't look what he see's, Surely that'll be enough just to know he felt something after all this time, I know my ex will.
J0N Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Honestly, I would not do that. I think getting revenge is just stooping to his level. It will show him and his friends that you are not over him. If you were truly over it and didn't care why would you bother. Congrats on the good grades!
tobydog Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Me too, I can't wait for his OW to get sick of him and kick him into the gutter cos that's the only place he'll have to go! I just want him to hurt as bad as I have I suppose. Tho some days I don't feel like this...Hope it passes as I am not generally a bitter person. Hope you get past it too x
Chi townD Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Best revenge on an Ex is to lead a happy and successful life. One day, he'll know he screwed up, and by that time, it's gonna be too late. Karma is a ..........
Fern Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Read this - I found it REALLY helpful. http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Love_Anger_and_Forgiveness_How_To_Let_Go_And_Be_Emotionally_Free_Once_And_For_All.html
Author shiftedblue Posted December 22, 2010 Author Posted December 22, 2010 thank you everyone. I keep telling myself that- the best revenge is living well- and that you get what you give etc. I'm gonna go check out this article y'll are right. I love loveshack!
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