mmiller5373 Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Here is a summary of what I did when my girlfriend of 2.5 years broke up with me. I'm going to go ahead and tell you that this stuff is really embarrassing as I look back at it. I probably shouldn't even be posting this here because of that. It might be good though. I dunno. I can't believe that I did what I did. Though I was unemployed, pennyless, had just moved 4 hours away from my girl, had no friends around, and yes, lived with my mom. It was already a tough time and then BAM, she breaks up with me. Also, I never acted like this during the relationship. I know that the way I acted was crazy... I guess we all do crazy stuff during a breakup, right? A lot of this stuff I did before I found LS, by the way. August 24th - She breaks up with me via text. I get upset and call her several times. We talk for a bit. August 29th - I drive 4 hours back to see her. Her brother says she went on vacation. I send her a text telling her I'm here and she pic messages me of her at the beach. I kind of freak out, "Why is she at the beach?" "Who is she with?" "Is it a guy?" I end up calling her a good 30 times while she's on vacation. August 31st - She finally calls me. We talk and I end up crying on the phone. September 7th - I send her a text. Get a response. September 9th - I drive back to see her. She seems happy to see me. We talk and she even invites me into her house to talk with her and her mother. When the breakup comes up, it goes downhill. I beg her to come back and she said she just wants to be friends. September 13th - I stop off at her house on my way back home to give her neice a birthday present. She pretty much just ignores that I'm there, even walks past me, gets in her car and leaves. When I get her on the phone I ask if there's another guy in her life and she says No. I go NC. October 7th - I'm back in town that weekend and I decide to stop off at her house. She's not there, though her brother-in-law talks with me for a bit and tells me I deserve better than her anyways. He says shes been hanging out with this guy a lot recently and that she says he's just a friend. October 8th - I call her a good 15 times, also texting her that I just want closure and want to say goodbye to her. That I know she has someone else now. I don't get a response. October 9th - I stop off at her house again and her brother-in-law tells me she's freaked out by me. She thinks I'm gonna do something stupid. She had also told him some lies about me to make me out to be a bad person. He tells me to leave her alone for a while and wait to see what happens. October 12th - I send her a long email telling her I'm over it and I'm sorry for acting the way I did. I go NC again. November 10th - I get a job (in my field) back where she lives. Great, right? No. Because I figured moving back would get her interested in me again. Wrong. November 11th - I send her some texts telling her about my new job. No replies. November 18th - Send her some more texts. No reply. November 20th - Call her. Number not in service. She changed her number. November 22nd - I decided to try to log into her FB (she had once logged into mine and read my messages, so it was okay for me, right?) and I got in. Found some private pictures in there of her and some guy romantically kissing at the end of September (just a month after she broke up with me). She's always been a different kind of girl, someone that doesn't let men into her life that easily, so I figure this guy's been around for a while. Turns out I'm right, he's been around (as a friend) since April. I never knew about him though. November 29th - I'm back home now. Had just started my job. I stop off at her work and give her a note, basically telling her that I know she lied to me about everything and that I wish her the best. Goodbye. NC for good.
GreenPolicy Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 You learned a lesson. Dont beat yourself up, even if you played everything right, she still was gone for good.
tobydog Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 We've all done this so don't worry too much. I go NC, difficult when you have a child then somethings happens and I fire off an email. The latest was my son said just out of the blue that when he saw his father a week ago he was kissing his OW! WTF! I seant him and angry email calling him amoral etc. No reply but so what. Just try to go NC now and you'll start to heal in time. Take care Dx
Author mmiller5373 Posted December 21, 2010 Author Posted December 21, 2010 I know now that 100% NC is the only way to move on. I just can't believe the way I acted. As I look back, I scare myself.
loverofloveandstuff Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 I know now that 100% NC is the only way to move on. I just can't believe the way I acted. As I look back, I scare myself. Atleast you can look back and see your mistakes, you've been there, done that and you know you won't do it again. Live and learn.
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