To everyone in an Affair

[OWoman]

You remain an unapologetic other woman.

 

In your own tiny universe, perhaps. Here on planet earth, it's a different case entirely. My M is recognised as valid and celebrated as such legally, socially and in all other dimensions. You may inhabit a parallel time or space which does not recognise divorce, but here on earth that is just considered delusional when all the facts support the converse. Have you considered therapy to address the gulf between what you choose to believe, and reality? It might help...

[OWoman]

No. I don't know why you're assuming all these things about me?

 

Because they all have socks, they're assuming you're one.

 

They can't allow themselves to believe that more than one person could possibly share your views, so they assume that anyone who posts with similar views must be a sock... It does get a bit tiresome...

[woinlove]

Exactly!! Yet when some OWs warn new OPs that most of the nastiness being flung at them is coming from BBSs and ROWs, some people in those categories take offence... Can't have it both ways, but I guess some people are happy with their own double standards.

 

Since your own categories seem to be important to you for judging people, rather than letting the posts stand on their own merits/faults, please let us in on them. Who is on your ROW list? Do you have me in your ROW box? Any other categories you find useful for labelling OWs?

[donnamaybe]

Exactly!! Yet when some OWs warn new OPs that most of the nastiness being flung at them is coming from BBSs and ROWs, some people in those categories take offence... Can't have it both ways, but I guess some people are happy with their own double standards.

Sorry. What we were talking about is NOT what you're describing above. We were talking about when a new poster posts their story and THE VERY FIRST THING AN OW SAYS IS TO WATCH OUT FOR NASTY POSTERS. That's not a double standard. That's just an example of a nasty person stirring a pot that hasn't even begun to boil.

[donnamaybe]

Because they all have socks, they're assuming you're one.

 

They can't allow themselves to believe that more than one person could possibly share your views, so they assume that anyone who posts with similar views must be a sock... It does get a bit tiresome...

Not similar views - EXACT same story and posting style. Although *shrug* has now turned to *sigh*

[whichwayisup]

But that mean 1 out of 10 DOES, doesn't it?

 

Yes, that's why I always say some MM and 1/10 etc. Obviously some MM and MW's do divorce. Though that takes action, not just empty promises and wishful words.

 

There are a handful of OW on here who have married their MM. It happens, but it's rare. Of course noone can truly predict an outcome, sadly on here for many OW's and OM's, the outcome isn't like GEL's and OW. Their MM put a plan into action and followed through, and both women were ready to walk away forever if that plan failed.

[Mimolicious]

Yes ma'am. You're absolutely right. I WAS A PREDATOR. However, unlike a select few OW here like to portray, I did have times of great remorse, there were times when I was horrified at what I had done, what I had become, and I could not stand to face myself.

 

That's why I have so much shame about it today. And bitterness, both at what I became, what I accepted into my life, and what I encouraged the man I allegedly loved to become.

 

I have posted about much of that, at length.

 

What I hate is when other OW get on the board and gloat about how joyfully and gleefully they conduct their affairs, as though they never gave a thought in the world to the pain they might be inflicting on unsuspecting and innocent others. As though the A never caused them any personal pain, either.

 

IMO, it is totally deceptive to portray an A as a total celebration, not mentionining the fact that many OW deal with personal torment at the violation of their own standards, the pain of being torn between what they so desperately want and what the reality is. The fact of living as a second-class side piece.

 

I realize this in no way compares to the pain of the WS's W and family.

 

I'm just saying that to portray an A as all roses is IMO TOTALLY DECEPTIVE, TOTALLY unhelpful to anyone involved an A, and can't possibly be posted for any purpose other than twisting the knife in the BS's back. IMHO. If an OW can't understand why people don't celebrate the delusion of the affair being all roses with her, she either has a vicious and vindictive agenda, or a serious and dangerous personality disorder.

 

IMHO.

 

 

WHAOOO!

 

Pain is pain. IMO, it's just a matter of who moves on and who doesn't. For the most part, when the A is busted out it's probably safe to say that the AP has the upper hand on moving on to the next. What happens to the MP and BS? They stay with a thousand little pieces... This is VERY COMMON. Now, of course, as we see here on LS and in RL, it may be vice-versa. Happened to me, I got out of the mess. I am in a better place now. I am at peace. I sleep at night. I dont worry about a thing but just my kids, my career, my business and my shopping habits. The only "Agenda" I have, it's a nice LV one that I pencil in dinner with the new boo. So who's bitter?

 

My xH OW... she got stuck with a lemon!! She gets to keep my cheating & lying xH. She wanted him and "my life" so bad... She only got him, because I still have my life. OH WELL! Sucks to be her! Her insides are going to turn when she sees her new competition. I actually think she is pretty hot. Finally! my xH is getting his taste back...

 

But that is my story, and it's 1 in a trillion according to LS stats. Most of LS'ers OW/OM have this amazing, wonderful, one-of-a-kind MM/MW that will never use them to meet his/hers own needs and they will really grow old and gray together. They will def get marry, have many babies (if they can and nature allows them) and live happily ever after because their new H/W will never ever ever ever (did I say ever?) do such thing to them. They are too amazing and irresistible, to ever betray. The end!

 

*disclaimer*

All characters appearing in this work are fictitious. Any resemblance to real persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental.

If in fact, this is your RL, then YOUR story is 1 in a trillion... Not vice-versa. Look at the masses...

[Fieldsofgold]

AND BACK TO OUR REGULARLY SCHEDULED PROGAM:

 

I love how we're always creating memories for each other with everything we do!

 

:lmao: ROFLOL :lmao: OH, Yeah! I remember that one! My MM-LIAR who passed himself off as divorced used to tell me that ALL THE TIME! We were making memories!

 

He had this whole long script about how memories are important and give us history and blah, blah, blah ad nauseum.

 

(they DO have a manual they get their scripts from, don't they!)

 

Heck yeah, we made some memories alright. No doubt neither he, nor his wife, nor his OW of ten years will forget the "memories" of D-Day!

[Mimolicious]

Ladyblue, there's so much pain in your posts.

 

Earlier you wrote something like you feel cheated because after everything that happened you're alone and he's still with his W, and you still miss him.

 

I know how much that hurts, I really do. It's ok and normal to feel that way, and I really hope that you will find peace.

 

But please let go of this shame and self-hatred.

 

You've had your moments of great remorse and I'm sure you would never do the same thing again. I believe you've done a lot of thinking and made decisions about your future actions.

 

You've learned what you needed to learn from that experience.

 

You're only human and like every human - not perfect. We learn about life as we go on and we're not born with the knowledge about everything. Sometimes we need to experience something to understand it.

 

At the time, the way you felt, made you act in this particular way. At the time it seemed to be the "best" course of action and there were reasons for it.

 

Now you're not the same person that you were then. So forgive "her", forgive yourself. This is the only way to let go and move forward to a better life. And you deserve it - you really do.

 

Beating yourself up so much really doesn't serve any good purpose any more.

 

Your levels of remorse and shame show that you are much more conscientous person than many. So you can really let of it now. Being too lenient for oneself might not be good, but being too harsh is not good either.

 

And because of what happened you're don't have to be labelled for life as an OW. IT was just an episode in your life, even though a long one. You're not that any more.

 

So other OW's opinions and attitudes do not reflect on you.

 

Sweet words Ellin and I also agree with you 100%. You should have this pinned somewhere, of course, minus the titles.

[Mimolicious]

Ellin, this is a great post!

 

Consider me now a member of your fan club!

 

EEG

 

The bolded- "NOW"? I thought you already were.

 

Like the youngsters I sponsor say... "We be knowing"!

[Mimolicious]

Its pretty bad when people who've already posted in this thread with one name' date=' come back and comment with one of their sock puppets later.[/quote']

 

 

LIKE REALLY!?!? All they need to do is pop the little darn white/blue/green (whatever color they come in) round little thing in their mouth and chase it with water. Hey, Vodka is even a better chaser! Knocks you the FACK OUT! That's sooo Hollywood!!! :lmao::lmao:

[herenow]

:lmao: ROFLOL :lmao: OH, Yeah! I remember that one! My MM-LIAR who passed himself off as divorced used to tell me that ALL THE TIME! We were making memories!

 

He had this whole long script about how memories are important and give us history and blah, blah, blah ad nauseum.

 

(they DO have a manual they get their scripts from, don't they!)

 

Heck yeah, we made some memories alright. No doubt neither he, nor his wife, nor his OW of ten years will forget the "memories" of D-Day!

 

Memories for sure. But, it's good to have memories of the good and the bad. Remembering the bad hopefully helps us avoid making the same mistakes over and over again.

[Mimolicious]

I don't care if some BBS on an internet forum doesn't believe my M is real - it's real enough for two countries to consider it so, and for all our friends and family and colleagues and neighbours to celebrate it.

 

Just today my H was posting holiday snaps on FB, and everyone was commenting on how in love we still are

 

That's wonderful! I wish you the best and keep the flame alive for eternity. Why you took my comment personal, though? The comment was not towards YOU, it was quoted from YOU, just keeping up unbiased. Your M should be real to YOU. Not to neighbors, friends, family and colleagues or countries. There are many people who have raised families and have lived a lifetime without being "legally" binded, yet committed to each other, home and family. NO, I am not talking about duplicity either. 2 halfassed R, dont make a whole. We all know that.

 

What's BBS? The extra "B" is for Beautiful? Wait! Wait! Can I buy a vowel? I rather solve the puzzle... "Bitter"? Yes? No?

 

This BS gets old...

[bentnotbroken]

You mean the green sock puppet?

 

 

Wow! I am slow:o I was wondering what OW meant by sock? Maybe it's the cold meds(yes! that's it, it's the cold meds:rolleyes:) Dang. Who has the time to be more than one person? I have enough trouble keeping up with me.

[bentnotbroken]

I don't care if some BBS on an internet forum doesn't believe my M is real - it's real enough for two countries to consider it so, and for all our friends and family and colleagues and neighbours to celebrate it.

 

Just today my H was posting holiday snaps on FB, and everyone was commenting on how in love we still are

 

 

What's BBS stand for? Okay I am a littl wonkie for a couple of days and I miss everything.

[Mimolicious]

What's BBS stand for? Okay I am a littl wonkie for a couple of days and I miss everything.

 

 

The Rims on my car are BBS...

[Fieldsofgold]

Thanks, Sid. I'm actually doing very well. I just got a huge promotion at work, so I'm very busy and focused on my own life. XMM on the other hand, well let's just say that he is currently facing some major financial issues. I feel very bad for him, and I wish him well, but his life is not my life. Let his W hold his hand through these obstacles.

 

And sid, you are wonderful too!

 

RC, I'm really glad to hear you are doing so well, and things are going so great for you!

[sweetvixen]

after many years of fizzled passion.. although truth be told it was never that hot to begin with, i finally met some one that just did it for me.. the look in his eyes when he sees me, the way my heart races, but more importantly the way he shows me respect as a person and not a (sorry to be crude) couple of holes.

[Tony]

This thread has gone on long enough and there's not enough time in the day to delete all the sarcastic and off topic posts. Thanks to those of you who have posted constructively and responsibly.