Author USMCHokie Posted December 22, 2010 Author Posted December 22, 2010 I would make one latch ditch effort, call and leave a message and that's it. If you don't hear back, then file it away. Two dates, there is not a lot of time or emotional investment by that point, though I realize it can still be a bummer. Yea, I am slowly realizing that we were not compatible at all...as far as our personalities...I basically felt like I had to be a completely different person in front of her...and perhaps I was holding onto something that wasn't going to work out just because I didn't want to "fail" again... And she's a vegetarian...
Star Gazer Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 I didn't want to "fail" again... YOU don't fail to begin with. It takes two people to make something work. You're too hard on yourself.
Jannah Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Yea, I am slowly realizing that we were not compatible at all...as far as our personalities...I basically felt like I had to be a completely different person in front of her...and perhaps I was holding onto something that wasn't going to work out just because I didn't want to "fail" again... And she's a vegetarian... Well you certainly don't want that. As for the vegeterian thing, can't say I've ever encountered that, I only know a few veggis and a couple omnivores or whichever they are referred to as, I forget the term.
Author USMCHokie Posted December 22, 2010 Author Posted December 22, 2010 YOU don't fail to begin with. It takes two people to make something work. You're too hard on yourself. I know...and I know I shouldn't take it personally or value myself less because someone turned out to not be interested...but I'm sure getting a little discouraged is a somewhat natural reaction...and of course the timing kinda sucks too...but such is life... Well you certainly don't want that. As for the vegeterian thing, can't say I've ever encountered that, I only know a few veggis and a couple omnivores or whichever they are referred to as, I forget the term. Yea, I have nothing against vegetarians or vegans (which is even more extreme ), but honestly, it's just a pain in the ass...
Jannah Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 I know...and I know I shouldn't take it personally or value myself less because someone turned out to not be interested...but I'm sure getting a little discouraged is a somewhat natural reaction...and of course the timing kinda sucks too...but such is life... Yea, I have nothing against vegetarians or vegans (which is even more extreme ), but honestly, it's just a pain in the ass... Ok well these are all valid reasons for you as to why you're incompatible and so, it should be that much easier for you to not want to pursue things further anyway.
9Lives Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 There's this girl that I've been seeing for the past few weeks. We've only been on two real dates and a handful of gym "dates." But in the past week or so, ever since she finished the semester and started her winter break, things have started to trail off into almost nothing. She had canceled a date for this past weekend and I've hardly heard anything from her since then. She has just been acting very ambivalent about us. She's close with her family, so I assume that she's spending a lot of time with them during the break, which is completely understandable. But at the same time, barring the holiday circumstance, everything would lead me to believe that she's not interested and is just trying to disappear. So when you happen to start seeing someone around the holidays, do you tend to spend more time or less time with them? Or is it dependent on circumstances (e.g., length of time you've been dating, family involvement, prior commitments/plans, etc.)? Should I just wait this one out...? I have no patience for wish washy people. I dated a guy like that it it gets on my nerves. Put at the back of the stage next to the bathroom.
OceanGirl Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 The last guy I dated for a month was a vegetarian. I didn't really think how much of a problem this would be until eating out/cooking came along. It is an annoyance, especially when he would turn his nose up any time I ordered meat.
Author USMCHokie Posted December 23, 2010 Author Posted December 23, 2010 I would make one latch ditch effort, call and leave a message and that's it. Well, I decided to make one last ditch effort to just say hi over IM. It was like talking to a brick wall. Her lack of personality, and complete lack of interest, is becoming more and more readily apparent. Hooray, the LAUNCH is official! :bunny:
Star Gazer Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 Well, I decided to make one last ditch effort to just say hi over IM. It was like talking to a brick wall. Her lack of personality, and complete lack of interest, is becoming more and more readily apparent. Hooray, the LAUNCH is official! :bunny: Didn't she already LAUNCH you? I kid. But in part, that's why I hate that darn word. How can you punt a ball that's not in your court? Know what I'm sayin'?
OceanGirl Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 Well, I decided to make one last ditch effort to just say hi over IM. It was like talking to a brick wall. Her lack of personality, and complete lack of interest, is becoming more and more readily apparent. Hooray, the LAUNCH is official! :bunny: Meh whatevs. As people have been saying to me, those things can not be forced. When you do meet the right girl, it will all flow naturally and there will be none of that c$ap....
Author USMCHokie Posted December 23, 2010 Author Posted December 23, 2010 Didn't she already LAUNCH you? I kid. But in part, that's why I hate that darn word. How can you punt a ball that's not in your court? Know what I'm sayin'? No, you're right, I got LAUNCHed...but it makes me feel a tiny bit better if I "did" the LAUNCHing... But at least now I have no doubts.
Jannah Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 Well, I decided to make one last ditch effort to just say hi over IM. It was like talking to a brick wall. Her lack of personality, and complete lack of interest, is becoming more and more readily apparent. Hooray, the LAUNCH is official! :bunny: Good to hear. Hip Hip Hooray-Launch
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