how long after the end of your LTR did you find someone else?

[michaeljames2k]

how long after the end of your LTR did you find someone else?

 

were you actively looking? or did you just happen to meet someone while you were trying to pickup the pieces of your destroyed relationship?

 

maybe you already had someone lined up before the breakup?

[overseas2004]

My ex broke up with me on February 7. I was and am really really suffering still. But I decided to go out with this guy on Sunday who has been pursuing me actively since I do find him interesting and attractive.

 

It came out of nowhere for me by the way. This guy just was in my face one night at a party all night long. I got excited by the fact that he was pretty bold.

 

So to answer your question in this case one month.

 

I don't let it go on longer than that. Life is too short to waste crying about some idiot who left you.

[wideawake]

I was single for about 6-7 months after the breakup of my last LTR. I think I dated twice, or maybe three times during that period, but didn't really click with anyone, and I just wasn't really myself still at those points.

 

It was around that 6 month mark that I really started to feel good about myself again and surprise, surprise, that's when I met my current gf.

 

I know myself pretty well, and the end of my last LTR was very hard for me, hence I didn't even feel like seeking out another relationship until I felt I could provide 100% of my self and not still be somewhere else.

 

I'm sure this is something that will be different for everyone though.

 

Hopefully this isn't something I'll ever deal with again though!

[morrigan]

I went on a few dates a couple months after my first LTR ended, but I didn't have a serious boyfriend again for over a year and a half.

 

It was good for me not to immediately start looking for someone else, and enjoying going to concerts and hiking on my own. By the time I met the guy who is now my bf, I had gotten past the hurt I'd felt about the previous breakup. My ex and I had had growing differences in viewpoints and lifestyles, making an honest break of it had been the best thing to do, even if it didn't feel good at the time.