mo mo Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 I would have no problem with that. ok good so are you single or what??
Gypsy_Soul Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Hahaha yes indeed, single and always ready to mingle.
mo mo Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Also being actively online on a social network proves nothing. What if it was the truth? Either way, it's cyber stalking. A long time ago I had a semi-serious relationship with a girl. I had her on myspace (naturally), her brother, and her father (they all added me). After she broke up with me for a strange reason, I just sucked it up and de-friended all of them. I knew there was something she wasn't telling me, but I figured it just wasn't worth it anymore anyways. About a week later one of our mutual friends pointed out to me that she was in a relationship again on the site with this other guy that I also knew. I didn't even look it up, but I did get a hold of her and let her have it one last time. It made me get over the breakup much quicker.
Author youngskywalker Posted December 21, 2010 Author Posted December 21, 2010 I'm not justifying the lie. He had my phone number because I gave it to him. He was not my friend on the social network at all. If I told him by phone, I'm sorry I'm not interested, I am taken. What compels a person to go check and monitor my online activities to which he is not even a friend. That is creepy. Sound to me like you may have those same tendencies because you are so quick to defend this weirdo. If someone said to me, sorry I'm taken, I'm not going to go on a hunt to find out if this person is lying or not. Why waste my time? I can go with you on this but I wouldn't call it stalking. Maybe a little creepy for you, and definitely unhealthy for him. But the truth is what you put on the internet is public for all to see (for the most part). If you don't want to share it with the world then don't put it on the WWW. If you have a web page for everyone to see, that means EVERYONE including stalkers. Get over it.
mo mo Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Hahaha yes indeed, single and always ready to mingle. Where do u live?
mo mo Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 That's stalking. haha Nah.. I just wanna know if she lives nearby b4 I put my game on her
Ariadne Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Ahhhhhhhhh with the facebook crap!!! I'm almost terrified of going to certain profiles because inevitably it puts me as first friend. Creeps me out every time. The people I've been stalking stopped logging in the profiles even.
Author youngskywalker Posted December 22, 2010 Author Posted December 22, 2010 Nah.. I just wanna know if she lives nearby b4 I put my game on her Too late dude, I've already put the game on her. lol Seriously though, I think the whole online myspace and facebook stalking thing is blown way the hell out of proportion. When you post something about yourself on a social network it becomes open to everyone, "thus.., his friends told him". Don't expect there to be boundaries with social websites. You made yourself public on your own ****** volition. I'm GOD DAMN sorry but when you upload photos of yourself on the freaking GOD DAMN WWW. then who the F**** do you think you are to say who can and can't or should or shouldn't look at the photos? WTF, are you trying to tell me that if you put yourself on a billboard on the freeway that a guy shouldn't look at you and be attracted? And if he does then HE'S A GOD DAMN STALKER? OK with all that said I'd like to say I'm very sorry for what I wrote and I'm on my 6th or 7th beer right now and just venting some frustration for what I've been going through. I didn't direct this post to anyone. It's for educational purposes only LOL. Cheers.
mo mo Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Too late dude, I've already put the game on her. lol Seriously though, I think the whole online myspace and facebook stalking thing is blown way the hell out of proportion. When you post something about yourself on a social network it becomes open to everyone, "thus.., his friends told him". Don't expect there to be boundaries with social websites. You made yourself public on your own ****** volition. I'm GOD DAMN sorry but when you upload photos of yourself on the freaking GOD DAMN WWW. then who the F**** do you think you are to say who can and can't or should or shouldn't look at the photos? WTF, are you trying to tell me that if you put yourself on a billboard on the freeway that a guy shouldn't look at you and be attracted? And if he does then HE'S A GOD DAMN STALKER? OK with all that said I'd like to say I'm very sorry for what I wrote and I'm on my 6th or 7th beer right now and just venting some frustration for what I've been going through. I didn't direct this post to anyone. It's for educational purposes only LOL. Cheers. Hahaha I'm about to pop open a beer myself. My friend bought me a magic hat variety 12 pack I agree with you though, I hate that mentality. Ohh I'm gonna put all these pictures up, but they're not for you to look at! I'm gonna wear tight pants, but don't you dare stare at my ass! I do agree that part of gorgeous girl's story is weird though. If her info was set to private, then how the heck would that guy get access to that info? I'm not just saying that because I'm trying to put my game on her though. Don't get it twisted. Nope, not a chance. TBH I had my past few girlfriends on myspace or facebook, but I was never all over their pages. In fact, I even got in trouble once for not seeing a folder of pictures on one girl's page. If you don't trust your partner enough that you have to track them through those sites then you shouldn't be dating them anyways.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 How do you define stalking? My definition of a borderline stalker is... "to pursue a girl when she clearly does not want to be pursued by you". i.e. has a boyfriend or told you to leave her alone. Sweet and simple. First of all, the definition of stalking has nothing to do with gender or sexual preference. Secondly, in this day and age of Facebook, 1 out of every 13 people on the planet just submit themselves to be stalked if indeed anybody can conjur up enough interest in them to even bother. (it's like credit card numbers... if somebody steals 3 million of them, they'd still have to live long enough to get around to yours in the pile) If you're a significant contributing factor to your own eventual stalking then your parents probably weren't very effective at instilling common sense in you. As for the sweet and simple part, I'm going with "repeated and unwanted contact"
Scottdmw Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 I think we should keep in mind the distinction between using the words stalking in general terms and its legal definition. There are laws against stalking in many places which can land a person in jail. It is important to keep those definitions very clear, consistent, and make sure we all agree on what they are. There are certain behaviors that everyone probably agrees should land a person in jail, such as hiding in the bushes outside of someone's house with binoculars or something. However, there are other things that people may consider stalking that I'm not so sure about. I've read that in some states at least if someone tells you to stop contacting them, and you contact them even two more times, they could theoretically send you to jail for that. I think that is problematic. It criminalizes what is in many cases normal human behavior. I suspect that most people know some couple in their lives where one of the people was initially not interested, but eventually “gave in” and is now happy in the relationship. Scott
Gypsy_Soul Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 I can go with you on this but I wouldn't call it stalking. Maybe a little creepy for you, and definitely unhealthy for him. But the truth is what you put on the internet is public for all to see (for the most part). If you don't want to share it with the world then don't put it on the WWW. If you have a web page for everyone to see, that means EVERYONE including stalkers. Get over it. Please read, I said my page is private and there is no way a person can come to the conclusion that I am single or not single from that. That is stalkerish behavior.
Gypsy_Soul Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Too late dude, I've already put the game on her. lol Seriously though, I think the whole online myspace and facebook stalking thing is blown way the hell out of proportion. When you post something about yourself on a social network it becomes open to everyone, "thus.., his friends told him". Don't expect there to be boundaries with social websites. You made yourself public on your own ****** volition. I'm GOD DAMN sorry but when you upload photos of yourself on the freaking GOD DAMN WWW. then who the F**** do you think you are to say who can and can't or should or shouldn't look at the photos? WTF, are you trying to tell me that if you put yourself on a billboard on the freeway that a guy shouldn't look at you and be attracted? And if he does then HE'S A GOD DAMN STALKER? OK with all that said I'd like to say I'm very sorry for what I wrote and I'm on my 6th or 7th beer right now and just venting some frustration for what I've been going through. I didn't direct this post to anyone. It's for educational purposes only LOL. Cheers. Wow, I think part of the stalker tendencies is to create made up events that never happened with a particular person. I can tell you were either illiterate or drunk because you clearly didn't read what I wrote. I know the guy in real time. I spoke to him on the phone, and turned him down over the phone. Later and I mean hours and hours later, he calls to tell me that if I'm really single like I say, why am I still on that particular social network? When, he is not my friend on there, and no we don't have any mutual friends or interests. MOMO not a chance:rolleyes: THANK YOU
sally4sara Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 I define stalking as using your presence to put someone in an anxious and threatened state of mind. Even a mugger who follows their target for a bit is stalking them despite a lack of familiarity to their target. Someone you've asked to leave you alone always shows up 5 minutes after you arrive some place - stalker. That person you dumped constantly driving slowly past your home - stalker. Your old rival seeking out your new connections to smear your name - stalker. That effing tow truck driver who hangs around your parking lot waiting for you to out the hazard lights on and lug something heavy to your door before parking - effing stalker! I HATE that guy!
mo mo Posted December 22, 2010 Posted December 22, 2010 Wow, I think part of the stalker tendencies is to create made up events that never happened with a particular person. I can tell you were either illiterate or drunk because you clearly didn't read what I wrote. I know the guy in real time. I spoke to him on the phone, and turned him down over the phone. Later and I mean hours and hours later, he calls to tell me that if I'm really single like I say, why am I still on that particular social network? When, he is not my friend on there, and no we don't have any mutual friends or interests. MOMO not a chance:rolleyes: THANK YOU Don't make me go all Pepe Le Pew on you
controlledchaos Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 yeah facebook is a tricky one. As are message boards. for me it just became clear that i was being tracked around the internet. i would post something on a message board then get a message about it on facebook. so, i deleted my facebook acct. there was no reason to have it with that kind of attention. the stuff outside the internet is freaky, and annoying. i was at dinner one night w a friend and i was getting text after text after text about where i was, and what time it was and the fact that i wasn't to my house yet, etc. he knew i had been to the mall earlier in the day too. so either i was being followed or my phone was. and it's pretty cheap to get cell phone spy stuff. i know way too much about this now. as for the whole facebook thing. i had a friend that i asked to go to an event w me and they turned me down. they had errands to run. ok, no sweat. but, 2 days later i see pics of them at an event with another friend ( that took place on the same day). i wasn't friends with the other friend, but because of the tag on the pics i could see them. i wasn't stalking, they were there to see. and i was able to make a decision about continuing a friendship with someone that would lie to me. i don't consider that stalking at all. it was there for the facebook community to see........... if i had gone looking for proof that they had lied to me, if i had searched through posts and pics, etc to see what i could dig up..... that's pretty creepy behavior, in my opinion at least.
tinktronik Posted December 23, 2010 Posted December 23, 2010 I've had 2 situations that I would consider stalking or borderline stalking. The first was a guy I had a one night stand with who I made it clear I did not want a relationship with who then called my phone over and over and over with no answer, up to 50 times a day, and showed up at places I was at and would sit off to the side and call my phone over and over and watch me not answer the calls. The second was weirder. I was in my current relationship and we had a guy friend who started dropping gifts and poetry and flowers off for me on our front porch. He started kind of trying to get me separated out from my SO to have 'private' conversations with me. Then we caught him looking through our back window watching us. My SO finally confronted him where he admitted to being convinced that we would one day break up and that he had a chance with me. We also learned that he had in the past formed these same infatuations with other women in committed relationships. For weeks after we asked him to not come around he would park around the neighborhood and "wander by our house."
ecm Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 Ahhhhhhhhh with the facebook crap!!! I'm almost terrified of going to certain profiles because inevitably it puts me as first friend. Creeps me out every time. The people I've been stalking stopped logging in the profiles even. huh?? so if people come up as my first friend that means they're looking at my profile the most? btw- I agree: if the info is public, you kind of waive your right to call it stalking. If you don't want it seen by someone, block it/ block them/make it private. Duh.
Ariadne Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 huh?? so if people come up as my first friend that means they're looking at my profile the most? Just a theory. But it seems like it puts top the people that go most often and have been last to your profile, with some randoms I guess.
NoLongerSad Posted December 28, 2010 Posted December 28, 2010 You know it's really stalking when he or she starts sending you pictures like this: http://www.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://www.mens-sexual-health.us/diet/images/celery_big.jpg&imgrefurl=http://www.mens-sexual-health.us/diet/foods/celery.html&h=499&w=325&sz=21&tbnid=puYyaMOgsqnkhM:&tbnh=278&tbnw=181&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dphotos%2Bof%2Bcelery&zoom=1&q=photos+of+celery&hl=en&usg=__KOjaPzfQn9bKk7gBIWxTARXm1Io=&sa=X&ei=XyoZTbeaHsH6lwex9tSBDA&ved=0CBcQ9QEwAA
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