Author IfiKnewThen Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 convinced he must have hated me to or was a real coward to not tell me he was getting married. and i sent him a christmas present b4 knowing he was getting married/ then got married. when we last spoke i asked him if he saw the gift. he said he put it aside becase it came at an inopportune time. i see him on chat everyday and he has yet to have to decency to tell me if she saw the gift yet. i know its at his moms house (where he goes everyday) so why hasnt he opened it yet. it was just a t shirt for him. and i had small token gifts for his parents in the box. he seems so detached and insensitive. like he didnt even know me for 10 whole years. wasnt in my house, didnt know my family....didnt make promises he didnt keep. nothing. have theior hearts been cut out they they have their memory banks been cut out also? its so cruel. i am so angry and hurt all at once. and i hate this his memory is everywhere . very horrible to live like this. i have never known anything this cuel in my life he turned out to be the most heartless steanest cuel human being. i cant believe this is the same person who was like a saint and prayed with me
homebrew Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 I am not one to believe in karma.... but there is a special place in he!! for people like him. For the record, I give this marriage less than 2 years MAX! What he is going to experience / feel through that break up and divorce is going to be 10X more DRAMA and WORSE than what you have experienced. This Guy is sick and twisted! I for one am glad that you are not with him anymore! Can you imagine your husband calling his EX within days of marrying you? Seriously that is CRAZY SICK! You need to Get Over this guy... He is TOXIC!!!!!!!
Author IfiKnewThen Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 thank you homebrew. i actually appreciated your words. i dont wish anything bad on anyone. but today i felt so angry. i guess my anger has been suppressed because all i do is blame myself for losing him in the first place. not claiming to be a saint here. its just that he didnt have to make that intense pass HIM KNOWING WELL HE was getting married in 4 days. and whats feels worse is i forgave it...because he was so good to me thru the years and a great friend. but now he like a complete stranger. like never ever existed. i only wanted to know if he saw my present and sop far no contact to say. yeah my mom saw it and i saw mine. nothing at all. i know he moved on...etc. but that pass was not acting like he moved on. i am soooooooooooo glad i didnt engage him. especially now learning he got married. so glad i wasnt that foolish
Author IfiKnewThen Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 anyway ty homebrew reading your post was comforting and thank you too for getting mad at him for me
delajoonal Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 IfIKnew... i just read your post from the 21st...OMG! i can't even imagine the horrific pain u must have gone thru hearing that news.... i have no advice, i am a mess myself... but i so wanted to say how VERY SORRY i am for u...i truly, honestly got a lump in my throat and my eyes welled up with tears...just feeling the pain in every word u wrote... THIS SO SUX! i hope u get some rest sweetie....again...i am sorry:sick: please keep posting on LS tho..OK..everyone is here for you... XO:(
Author IfiKnewThen Posted December 30, 2010 Author Posted December 30, 2010 Delajoonal, thank you so much for writing. i really appreciate your kindness and support. you have always been so compassionate towards others when i have seen your posts before and i hope the kindness and goodness comes back to you 10 fold. broken hearts are no fun:( i am still in shock..but thank goodness for places like LS and for the support and compassion of others ,like yourself. your words meant so much!!! ((( hugs )))
Chi townD Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 Girl! You seriously need to do this. Rent a hall and throw a BIG "THANK GOD I DODGED A BULLET" party! This guys isn't worth your time! I've read your posts and you sound like the sweetest person in the world! The heart can sometimes decieve us, but I promise that I won't hold it against you that you hooked up with a guy with an IQ of room temperature! He's someone else's problem now!
delajoonal Posted December 30, 2010 Posted December 30, 2010 Delajoonal, thank you so much for writing. i really appreciate your kindness and support. you have always been so compassionate towards others when i have seen your posts before and i hope the kindness and goodness comes back to you 10 fold. broken hearts are no fun:( i am still in shock..but thank goodness for places like LS and for the support and compassion of others ,like yourself. your words meant so much!!! ((( hugs ))) ok, so now u made me cry 2x today... seriously..thank you for YOUR kind words... it's all we can do during these cruddy times of divorce and break ups, is to be here for each other.. if u ever wanna chat privately, please feel free to message me, OK. i hope u have a good nite..try to, ok p.s. my stupid xbf has just emailed me 6x...really, what game is he playing 2nite? i think a fishing expedition?? dang it, i gotta stick to NC...it's the only way WE can ALL get thru this.. we can do this.. XO
Author IfiKnewThen Posted December 30, 2010 Author Posted December 30, 2010 Girl! You seriously need to do this. Rent a hall and throw a BIG "THANK GOD I DODGED A BULLET" party! This guys isn't worth your time! I've read your posts and you sound like the sweetest person in the world! The heart can sometimes decieve us, but I promise that I won't hold it against you that you hooked up with a guy with an IQ of room temperature! He's someone else's problem now! thank you Chi town. i need to read things like this because i beat myself up everyday, because he used to be great and i know i had some issues. but if he can try to come on to me be before the wedding PLUS not tell me then youre right it was a bullet...i would have gotten either way..now or later with him. i was older then him so down the road he probably would have thrown me under a bus anyway. he wasnt like that before, but maybe it was always in his nature all alone and i didnt know it. either way...youre invited to that party. ; ) thank you for caring. delajoonal again thank you much. i wonder why hes tried 6 x. either way..both you ladies sound so sweet...and this has just been a year with so many breakups. and i am not just out of the loop and didnt notice things. but there have been break ups in among family members, neighbors friends...people you wouldnt figure leaving each other. rough year:o
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