TheGrimSweeper Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Hey everyone ive been on almost 4 weeks of no contact with my ex since she ended a second time for very confusing reasons. Her parents are currently separating, shes working a crazy amount, is busy with school and incredibly stressed so she ended it saying it wasn't the right time for a relationship, saying shes been super depressed over her parents separating and just needed some time to get over it. All the while writing the nicest things about me in a letter she gave me the night she ended it, saying she loves me and will always love me and will probably never find someone like me again. For the record the first time she ended it is because she thought she wasn't ready for a serious relationship, came back 2 months later after I stopped talking to her a month after the breakup and we were together for another 6 months. 1 week ago would have been our two year anniversary. Anyway after the second time she ended it I immediately went no contact and haven't said a word to her since, learning from my mistakes the first. She wanted to stay friends for now and I said no, but never really explained why. I know this girl and I know shes just waiting for me to make a move and I feel like its all on me to do something when it shouldn't be, it should be on her since she ended it. Recently she just changed her name on MSN to "Maybe if my heart stops beating it wont hurt this much" which I realize is probably just a cry for attention, but I know shes just waiting for me to do something. Anyway I want to send a letter just to ensure its all on her, explaining why I can't be friends (not professing my love to her or anything like that). I just hate this feeling of it being all on me to do something, and feel like I'll be more relived and can move on easier if I send it. I realize I've done everything right so far with the no contact so let me know what you guys think.
USMCHokie Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Hey everyone ive been on almost 4 weeks of no contact with my ex since she ended a second time for very confusing reasons. Good job. Keep it up. All the while writing the nicest things about me in a letter she gave me the night she ended it, saying she loves me and will always love me and will probably never find someone like me again. Actions are more important than words, and these words are inconsistent with her actions. So to me, they are meaningless. Anyway I want to send a letter just to ensure its all on her, explaining why I can't be friends (not professing my love to her or anything like that). I just hate this feeling of it being all on me to do something, and feel like I'll be more relived and can move on easier if I send it. Then pull your head from out of your ass and stop feeling that way, because it isn't on you to do anything. Don't send the letter. You don't owe her anything except permanent space. I realize I've done everything right so far with the no contact so let me know what you guys think. You have, so don't break NC for the holidays.
NeNinja Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Just because a girl is sad and/or crying it doesn't mean she's having second thoughts. (It could but it doesn't always.) A lot of times the dumper needs to go through the same grieving process as the dumpee...and if she's haing issues with her parents it may not have anything to do with you.
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