jimmyboy Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 OK, this is a little weird for me but here goes. There is this girl where I work who I have kinda known for a year, would say hello in passing, but nothing more as my head was kinda up in the air. About 6 months ago I started to talk to her as best I can, I have never been brilliant at talking to girls. As I got talking to her I started to properly like her, she's pretty much my type, beautiful smart and athletic. The thing is I still find it difficult holding a conversation with her, and I want to ask her out, but I think she is into someone else. It's been a wie while since I asked someone out so is kinda freaking me out, sometimes I think things over to much. So what I'm wondering is do I take the plunge ask her out and just see what happens? My main worry is that things will become awkward at work, though I don't see her that often so is not to bad in that sense. The annoying thing about this is that normally I'm confident, but it's like a become a wreck when talking to the girls I like. Once I'm friends with them it's easy to talk to them.
Seamless74 Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 if you think its a stretch its probably a bad idea.
Author jimmyboy Posted December 21, 2010 Author Posted December 21, 2010 when you say a stretch, you meaning where I'm not sure if she's into someone else? sorry if this seems dense
sigurpol Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 A "stretch" would imply, a risk or something that may not really be in your favor. I normally stay away from work relationships. One reason is what you wrote yourself.. things become awkward. You're gonna have to work/see this person on a regular basis (yet say you don't see her that often, but still). Say it does work, you ask her out and things go well.. if something goes wrong, you're still going to have to deal with it at work. It's a little too complicated for my liking. I'm not saying that this WILL happen, or any of that will happen. I would keep trying to have conversation with her before asking her out. By talking to her more, you'll gain some more insight on if she's into anyone else. Stay cool
creighton0123 Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Yeah. Stay away from work relationships. Unless you're on other teams and work in such a way where you rarely encounter one another, it just gets weird. Plus she might not respect or desire advances in the work place. You could get yourself into some trouble depending on your company policy.
DuskCrush Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Find out if she is involved with someone first. Just ask if she is seeing someone or has a bf.
Author jimmyboy Posted December 22, 2010 Author Posted December 22, 2010 Thanks for clarifying what was meant by a stretch, sometimes my brain just doesn't click. Company policy is not a problem, the whole been awkward thing isn't to big a problem due to fact I'm a student working part time, so only work at same time for a few hours a week. So won't kill me. It is still a worry but that's life. Cheers for the advice, so basically don't just jump in blind, talk a bit more and find out where she stands. Well here's hoping then.
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