It's hard when they leave during the "honeymoon" period :(

[Taucher]

I am full of doubt and worry today. Just spoke to my SO on the phone for an hour. It was lovely but hard too. She has got a job interview tomorrow, for a good job too. Her plan is to work for 6 months before she comes back to London in June next year. But I worry that when she gets a good job she will re-assess and wont want to leave. She insists this wont happen. I am supportive and happy for her, while secretly worried and scared.

 

Overall, I think it's hard because we spent 6 amazing months together and we are still very much in the early stage of a relationship, it should be the best bit. We so love being with each other and 6 months together is long enough to be sure about each other (and I am, more than any relationship I have ever had), but not long enough to be really totally established; it's still the butterflies in the stomach stage. I feel that if we had had longer together before she left, I would be more confident and comfortable. The yearning to be physically together is quite unbearable at times. And I have developed a jealous streak I'm afraid

 

Sorry for venting.

[folieadeux]

I'm going through a hard time too right now. What should be a really exciting week is coupled with stress as well for me. We'll be seeing each other exactly a week from today, but the distance is really affecting me more than ever. I find it harder right before a visit, for whatever reason, and I've been less than easy to deal with lately to put it plainly. I know I have to keep my emotions in check because I don't want to pick fights about stupid stuff and sabotage a great thing...I just really miss him.

 

My SO and I are in that "honeymoon" stage still now I feel, but we never lived together during it. Our whole relationship has been long distance so far. I think it's good that you two actually had that time to spend together so you know what your future will be like when she returns.

 

It seems like our SO's are the "stronger" ones between the pair of us and bless their hearts for it. The only advice I can give is to just stay strong and not let it affect her or your future together. The anxiety and stress may be unintentionally damaging the future of your relationship, and that's the last thing you want to happen, trust me on that. I don't doubt anything about my relationship and I trust him completely, I just miss him like hell and I inadvertently lash out sometimes about nothing and for no reason at all. From your posts, I can tell maybe you're in the same mindset at times too. Stay strong, and above all, try to stay positive.

[HeavenOrHell]

I know exactly what you mean, me and my OH are in the honeymoon stage and have only had 16 days together since April, frustrating to say the least.

[ldlover]

I am full of doubt and worry today. Just spoke to my SO on the phone for an hour. It was lovely but hard too. She has got a job interview tomorrow, for a good job too. Her plan is to work for 6 months before she comes back to London in June next year. But I worry that when she gets a good job she will re-assess and wont want to leave. She insists this wont happen. I am supportive and happy for her, while secretly worried and scared.

 

I'm in a similar situation; my SO has recently moved out to reassess her education/career options, has a new job and is keeping fairly busy at home. While I am having a hard time with it, I am still happy that things are looking up for her. At the same time, I am worried that these new developments will take her life in a new direction. It's hard making the adjustment for sure and it requires a great deal of trust. You also seem to notice all the little details you used to take for granted. Good luck with it!

[lala82]

Taucher, it's normal to be scare at this stage of your relationship. Always, it's a risk. Now, circumstances are different between you and your SO.

 

I think you should come to Colombia in March and met her. It's the only way; you will really know what is going to happen with your relationship. I told you that, because I did not see my ex bf for 5 months and the insecurity was killing me. When he came to Colombia I realized that there were still strong feelings. Unfortunately, his experience of having a perfect job and life in Saudi changed him in a big way. I am not telling you that it is going to happen with your gf. But, if you met her you will know if things are going to any point.

[Taucher]

Sorry for how it happened for you lala.

 

Yes I am coming but probably not until April 1st, which feels like a long time away. She really wants me to come to Bogota and I cant wait. I would go now if I could! And you are also right that any relationship is a risk but I guess an LDR relationship feels like more of a risk.

 

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