2010_Sorry Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 Ugh. We have been divorced since the end of September. He has started dating a woman and have been together for 6 weeks, in his words "on again off again". When I asked him if it was serious, he said "No... not sure how I feel", but yet he has introduced the kids to her and they have been doing things that a typical "family" would do. I'm trying very hard to be supportive and understanding, but this is really tough.
feelingfine Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 I have been separated for about 18 months...he has been seeing her since who knows when before that. He started introducing them to her about 1 year into our separation. It still hurts and bothers me every time. They play happy family while I am here alone. It is very hard, I know. Unfortunately I have come to accept I can't control what he does or what stupid choices he makes. Sorry to you sorry...hang in there.
plowguy1 Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 I'm not even divorced, Shes been seeing him since 4 mos after our sep introduced the kids weeks after. He has spent the night with my daughter there weeks after that! She thinks this is fine because her friends told her its a good idea. She couldn't imagine listening to a marriage counselor though... people want what they want, and they will listen to the truth they want to hear.
delajoonal Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 2010 sorry... i am sorry u have to feel THIS pain on top of what u r already going thru.. i SO know this one as well.. my XH left me for his OW/EA, she has 2 kids, a 4 y/o and a 9 y/o. she divorced her H and kicked him out and MY XH moved in with her and her 2 kids...ALL with one year! my XH even had the nerve to talk to me about Xmas gifts, last year, for HER kids, yet get this..he NEVER CALLED OUR SON, or got him anything for Xmas..nice huh! these people and THEIR A's...will THEY EVER see what they R doing???? take care...again, so sorry u have to go thru this too:sick:
Distant78 Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Oh well 2010, to be blunt you'll just have to deal with it and leave him alone and let him handle his business. He's still trying to move on from the destruction you put him through. Let him heal how he needs to. As long as the kids aren't hurt they'll be fine. I'm sure he won't let anything happen to them. Stop waiting for him to come around.
delajoonal Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 ..i am completely apalled at some of the responses/replies to the OP's lately... y so much hostility and bitterness??? distant78..really??? no matter who left who, we ALL come here for support and understanding...yet again, i find myself defending the OP's... what is REALLY going on here??? i know we r ALL hurting and bitter...but that is Y we come here, to LS...for comfort, understanding, support...KINDNESS! i hope we can ALL get thru these divorces, holidays, etc...with a little more understanding of what OUR LS family is going thru as well... take care everyone...
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