Kaitie Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 So I'm kind of venting, but would also like opinions. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. I am 19 and he is 18. I am a sophomore in college and he has only applied to one school, even though he graduated in May. Things got tough when I went to school, but I started commuting my second year and we worked it out. Now we have been having more problems than ever. I am very family oriented and my parents pay for my schooling and everything but my car's gas. His parents pay for everything, but let him do whatever he wants and come home whenever he wants. Lately, he has been yelling at me because I listen to my mother a lot. I tell him that while I'm living under her roof and she pays for things, I need to respect her and not everyone can have parents like his. He says that eventually my mother controlling me is going to cause a major problem between us (although she lets me do A LOT of things). Also, I keep pushing him to get into school and get a job, but he doesn't seem to really want to. Now, he gets very irritable and almost every conversation becomes a fight. The thing is, when we are together (which is only on the weekends) we are perfectly fine. Another problem we have is that he spends all of his time with his friends. I know I cant see him on the weekdays so I am fine with him hanging with them. However, when I come over he still wants to go out with them. I have to practically beg him to stay at home and just spend time with me. I'm thinking its time to move on, but he has been my best friend (and for a while, my only) since I was 8 and I don't want to lose him.
january2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 You're both still figuring things out and finding your place in the world, testing boundaries with each and in your other relationships. A lot of changes are going to happen to you both over the next few years and how/whether you overcome those changes will define you individually and as a couple, if you stay together. In my experience, the petty arguments are a manifestation of some underlying issue that hasn't been dealt with. I suggest an open and honest talk about what you both want out of your lives and where you see yourselves.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Don't lose track of the fact that your boyfriend is rather lazy and unmotivated. In due time, when all of this comes to a head, it will be the result of his lack of motivation that you have further struggles. Relationships that began at age 15 or so probably aren't going to be good for the long haul. Too many major-yet-natural changes with each individual to survive very long into adulthood. Your loyalty to your family makes more sense than you might recognize now. Your mom can probably read your boyfriend in unbiased fashion and without emotion. Stay aware of the big picture.
typiical14 Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Hey Well im Bysexual..And im Wiith Thiis Gurl.Weve Been Datiing For !year2mounths..And When We First Got Together She Was Cheatinq On Me wiith Thiis Guy..And Eventually i Found Out.I Forgave Hur.Have Youhh Ever Hurd The Phrase Whut Comes Around Goes Around...Well i Had Cheated On Her Once And Onli For 2 Dais Kus i Felt Bad For The Chiick And Eventuall My Gurlfriend Found Out..So She Decidet Too Teach Me a Lesson And Cheat On Me 8 Times..But i Love Her And Cant Let Hur Go...it Kills Me But She Is always cheating on me and i just dont wanna be wiith her noe more should i let her go anybody outr their
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