hart1239 Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 I have been dating my partner for a year. We are supposed to get married next year (venue booked, dress bought etc). He has a 11 year old daughter. He also has a very intense job, a second business to run on the side, a couple commitments during the week to his daughter + has her every other week end. He is a brilliant father and its one of the reasons I love him. I get on really well with his daughter, and we have fun together when we see each other. I know there are some issues with her mother, as has been very manipulative in the past and tried to cause trouble using the daughter (so has been said to me by other family members) Now the wedding is getting closer he has said that he is questioning weather he can move further away from his daughter as he thinks she needs him. I have offered to move to him - but as I myself have lots of commitments (help my mother alot as I am all she has, have horses at home etc) he says he feels it is unfair to ask me to move. He has now asked me for some time on his own to think. The reason for this is that he never gets time alone to sort out his own things (I know this to be true - I have never met a busier man) and he needs to think about the future. I just don't like the way he is talking - he sounds so cold....maybe this is just a man thing and he needs to deal with stuff...says things like ''it either is or isn't going to work'', ''I have got to figure myself out I need time'' Then he send me message saying he loves me more than he can say. I feel like he is getting cold feet - maybe something in the situation has been manipulated by his daughters mother? I just feel like heart break is on the horizon...and like I'm a sitting duck! What should I do? Just chill and give him space - I have been so far - but find it hard to speak to him on the phone like all is ok. He doesn't seem to like talking about it and just says he needs time and to stop pushing him. Am I being a girl about it and just need to stop worrying?
creighton0123 Posted January 5, 2011 Posted January 5, 2011 Chill and give him some space. Take the space and time you have to pamper yourself a little bit :-) Go have a good, girlie time. Facial, massage, mud bath, makeover, shopping - hell, skiing, hiking, biking, etc. if you're not into the spa treatment. Give him some time to figure things out. If he needs space and you're not providing it to him, that'll push the two of you closer to potential heartbreak more than his having time to think things through. Give us an update when/if you have one :-) Oh, and / hug
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