fancypants Posted March 15, 2004 Posted March 15, 2004 I am dating this guy...Nothing serious. I really like this guy. He lives a little ways away from me, so we have a little bit of a strange relationship. Since he and I have been dating I have become pretty good friends with on of his friends whom is a girl. She and I email every day, and she is pretty funny. So she invited me to come to his Hockey game on St. Patrick's Day, since I will be in his home town for a work related event. I have been to a few of his games, and have had a great time. I guess I feel a little awkward driving over there for one of his games with out him inviting me. She told me not to worry about it, but I feel as though I should talk to him about it. I have called and left two messages on his phone in the past 5 days and no return. I called him at work this past Wednesday, and we talked for a while, and everything seemed fine. I have not heard from him since then. Should I call him and ask him if he would like to see me, or just show up for the game? I am don't't know if i should go I feel like I would be intruding on him. What should i do?
Thor Posted March 15, 2004 Posted March 15, 2004 If the relationship isn't that serious then maybe the guy feels like you're invading his space, or that you're being a bit clingy too soon. It's how I would feel if someone I was seeing in a casual manner were to show up at one of my games. Here's a suggestion. If you and your new girl friend want to hang out, why don't you do something that doesn't involve the guy?
spencer Posted March 16, 2004 Posted March 16, 2004 I say if you want to go, just go and don't put too much thought into it. have a good time, he's a man and will love to show off for you. think of the message it might send if you were invited by his friend and didn't go.
Music Lover Posted March 16, 2004 Posted March 16, 2004 Tough one....I agree with thor. It's not that your being clingy but the fact is he has not called in 5 days. I PERSONALLY would not show up w/o talking to him first. I also agree that you and his friend can plan to do something else too.......it's hard to find friends and life so don't let him stop your chance at a friendship.
Author fancypants Posted March 17, 2004 Author Posted March 17, 2004 Thank you so much for your replies. I called the guy yesterday, and asked him what he was doing after his game, and he said he had to work! Which i know is a lie, since the place he works at in the evenings is closed. So I am kicking him to the curb and I am going to just hang out with my new friend! Thanks for all the great advice! It should be a great time
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