yoga18 Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 Ok so feel free to look over my posts so you have a little more understanding. I have written about this issue in the past. My boyfriend and I are going to be celebrating our one year in a few weeks. We get along, laugh, and genuinely enjoy one another. We spend a good portion of our time together. I'm not a pushy person (at least I don't see it that way) he's been burned in the past ex wife etc. So have I but my divorce has been longer than his. Here is the issue. I will be honest at times I feel like its MY issue and other times where I feel justified and I'm like WTF!!! He hasn't told me he loves me :o/ it freaks me out I mean wouldn't you know by now? He treats me wonderful I don't doubt that he cares very much for me but I'm not going to go out on a limb and say oh he loves me bc he does this or that. That is an assumption I'm not willing to make. So what could it be? Is he scared? I don't see him staying with me for a year if he saw no future with me. He has a house and to him it "ours". He makes no house decor changes unless he feels I like it. Its difficult bc I don't want to give myself over totally without knowing. So do I just ask or do I sit back and wait. I feel like asking would be confronting him and backing him into a corner and it isn't fair I want him to love me bc he does. But seriously how much longer should a person wait?
lovebird72 Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 Really? A year? I definitely think he would know by now if he loves you or not. He might not be ready to "declare" himself...but he'll know. If you love him...you should tell him. If you have told him, without him reciprocating, you really should ask him...gently...if he loves you. Just don't do it unless you are truly ready to hear whatever answer he gives. I don't think it is too demanding...unless you add an ultimatum.
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