LimboNewb Posted December 20, 2010 Share Posted December 20, 2010 I frequently find myself remembering and making some effort to find out about previous friends and SOs. I remember reading here a long while back that the only real way to get over someone is to disconnect completely, but that hasn't seemed to work for me--rather I don't communicate with any of my previous SOs but still find myself (on occasion) googling them to see if anything pops up (this gets more tedious as the list grows). Probably the driving factor for this thread is that an ex (from like 8 years ago that I googled) just had triplets [intentionally] while a contentious factor in our relationship was that she never wanted kids. My reaction was to feel violated/jealous and I suppose this implies I'm still not over her despite the time and relationships in between, but if that's the case I don't know that I will ever "get over" any of my previous SOs as it's not a unique case. Does this curse follow anyone else? If only I could forget their names it might not be a problem Link to post Share on other sites
january2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Share Posted December 21, 2010 Jenny from college swore she'd never get married and have kids but is now loved up in New Jersey with three. So what? What does it matter what life decisions people make when they're not in our lives anymore? People change. Even in eight years. I suspect that most people have had a bit of a reminisce now again and it's normal to feel a pang of something or other when you learn some new information about your former flame(s). Doesn't mean that you're not "over" them. There was a connection there and the new information just tugged on a memory, that's all. While it's nice to have a trip down memory lane and think about the good ol' days, in my opinion, it's best to leave the past in the past. By all means, be curious, google some names, but leave it at that and think nothing more on it. Link to post Share on other sites
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