Nobodyn0se Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 Hi guys I'm new to the dating game and to the forum. I came to seek advice from you veterens in that dating game. I'm perplexed right now about this relationship. We have been dating each other for around 2 months but we knew each other from class and hung out outside of class (college) occasionally. She was flirting with me apparentely and I didn't pick it up. I secretly had a crush on her so one day she told me she was about to go on a date. I felt like I had been punched in the stomache when she said that. So as she's walking to her car I turn her towards me and tell her that I like her. She then said that she loved my earnesty and said she would like to go on a date with me. She still went on her date (she's a multi dater) but she ended up late and she didn't get to dress up . Anyways she told me that she liked me also, a bit elementry but hey--- it worked. Anyways... I told her about my ex because I just got out of a relationship but it just kind of spewed out that I liked her. So naturally I felt she should know before getting involved with me that I just got out of a relationship. She then told me about her ex's and how she's never gotten past 7 dates, and she implied that I was really the first person she liked that she's dated. We've talked about our relationship and we both agree that it's confusing because we've pretty much broken every rule there is about dating. Is it time we had a serious talk about our relationship? Is it all time to talk about exclusive dating? Should we attempt to define what we mean to each other? I'm so confused it feels like I have intimate relationship, yet it also feels like something else... I can't describe it. I feel dazed and confused....
Author Nobodyn0se Posted December 20, 2010 Author Posted December 20, 2010 Have sex with her. Well... I used to be a Christian and because of this I'm still a virgin. I have no idea what moves to make beyond kissing, and when to make them.
utterer of lies Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Well... I used to be a Christian and because of this I'm still a virgin. I have no idea what moves to make beyond kissing, and when to make them. You will have to learn this anyway, so just try and even if you make 'mistakes'.... it'll be ok
sigurpol Posted December 21, 2010 Posted December 21, 2010 Try not to over analyze everything as to "what comes next", you'll trip over yourself. Just enjoy what's going on right now. As far as the things to discuss, it seems like you guys are really starting to share a lot for each other and have some good communication going and that usually feels good because you're on the same page with that person. It's reassuring. Anyway, when I come to that checkpoint in dating someone, I would usually ask, "So where do you want this to go?" or, "how do you feel about us?". That can open a whole other box of questions and ways to gauge as to where this can all go.
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