mgene15 Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 Do you ever feel like you gotta say one last thing to your ex that dumped you that will make you feel better even after a couple months of NC? I was dumped in September and I've been NC for 2 months,At the beginning of NC I wrote down on a notepad what I would wanna stick to her(say to her) ...I'm not going to break NC, but more than ever I think about tellin her how i feel and the mistakes she made and how she treated me very badly... I don't no if this is normal but I almost feel like I want my ex to atleast realize the pain I've been in...It's almost as if they don't no... and for surely don't care... jus venting... again I'm not gonna break NC, after all I am 2 months strong and proud! but just have these minor bumps in the road... any input would be greatly obliged
january2010 Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 Yes, most of us have been there. But it's best not to send it. Waiting for a reply is going to be painful and can set back your healing. Telling her about her "mistakes" and "how badly" she treated you is not going to help you in the long run. Perhaps she does realise the pain and she does care or perhaps she doesn't but I don't think you should allow that to impact you. Focus on you. Don't concern yourself with what your ex is thinking or feeling.
Leandro Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 Yes, most of us have been there. But it's best not to send it. Waiting for a reply is going to be painful and can set back your healing. Telling her about her "mistakes" and "how badly" she treated you is not going to help you in the long run. Perhaps she does realise the pain and she does care or perhaps she doesn't but I don't think you should allow that to impact you. Focus on you. Don't concern yourself with what your ex is thinking or feeling. listen to Jan. She's old and wise . Hehehehe, sorry Jan.
pandagirl Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 Yeah, I do feel this way sometimes, but only recently. Don't send it. You don't even want your ex to know you are thinking of them. Just disappear for the time being.
strangeways Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 Yeah, I've felt like this and still do sometimes. I've learnt a lot about myself and her since I started doing NC and there's things I'd like to talk to her about. What's the point though? She probably wouldn't listen and if she did it'd make no difference and I'd just think of something else I wanted to say a week later and it'd never end. Helped for me to write it out in an email, save it as a draft, read it a few times and then delete it. maybe start writing a journal?
Fern Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 Oh God yes. I feel like this all the time. Every time I have a new epiphany about the way he treated me I get the urge to tear into him. But what good would it do? None. He's not even worthy of my anger. Wrote it down, but don't send it. I find that as long as I get it out of me I feel better.
J0N Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 I thought the same thing too for a while. I wouldn't send it, it probably won't do anything anyways. Somethings are just better left unsaid
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