jorlax82 Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 ok so i am gonna tell you the background of what's going on & i would really appreciate 2 minutes of your time. if not i understand =) Ok so i am a sophomore in college & i live in the dorms. on every floor there are 2 RA's. my building is co-ed by floor, so on the floor above me there are guy RA's. Over the past few weeks i have been talking to & hanging out with one of the guy RA's. (not like talking talking to, but like talking to them). he came to nyc with me & my friends a few weeks ago & on the train ride back he was sitting next to me & spinning a water bottle & it kept hitting me so i reached over to grab the water bottle but i got his hand instead & it seemed like he held on longer than he needed to & he also kinda pulled it towards him. he then proceeded to purposely hit me with the water bottle & he started tapping the bottom of my foot with his. then my friends & him got in a convo about relationships & w.e. & he said something about guys using girls just for sex & he said that he would never do that & my friends said that he looked right at me, which i couldnt see because i was sitting right next to him. then later that week me & my friends were hanging out with him down at the front desk & i was across the room talking with another RA & my friends decided to take the initiative & ask if he had his eye on anyone & they told me that he shot a glance over at me. but i am not sure whether i can believe that. i have been noticing him kind of standing closer to me then normal. he is really shy at first & so i told him that he should say hi to me more so he has been saying hi really enthusiastically lately. this past weekend me & my friend went to his room to watch a movie. we were both in his bed (its 2 twin beds pushed together) & of course my friend made me sit in the middle. we didnt really watch too much of the movie & we started creepin on his laptop on fb & he showed us this girl that has been trying to get with him & he told us that she is not attractive at all & the only reason people sleep with her is cuz she is easy & has big ****. i dont know if he showed us her to make me jealous or show that other girls are interested in him or if he just doesnt feel that way about me.. but when i was lookin at the pics he was leaned over really close to me. i dont know what to do. i cant tell if he is actually interested or if that is just how he acts. to make it more difficult it's now winter break & i am home for a month. he's staying at school cause he has duty & w/e but my friend also stays in the dorms over break so maybe i can go visit her & hope that he is around.... any ideas?? please? sorry to be another one of those girls that posts their entire love life on the internet.
810 Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 this past weekend me & my friend went to his room to watch a movie. we were both in his bed (its 2 twin beds pushed together) & of course my friend made me sit in the middle. we didnt really watch too much of the movie & we started creepin on his laptop on fb & he showed us this girl that has been trying to get with him & he told us that she is not attractive at all & the only reason people sleep with her is cuz she is easy & has big ****. i dont know if he showed us her to make me jealous or show that other girls are interested in him or if he just doesnt feel that way about me.. but when i was lookin at the pics he was leaned over really close to me. first sentence: personally, i wouldn't even think about any guy who talked about females like that around me. if he bluntly talks like that about any woman to other women, then a) he only sees you as a guy friend; b)he will likely talk about you in that way when you're not around to another girl who interests in him; and c) if he disrespect them, he will disrespect you. second sentence: see the first. if he is interested or likes you, he would ask you out.
MJ2 Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 Yep. 810 got it right. Definitely a red flag! I mean really, who does that!? ESP n front of a girl ur intereted in. Weird. He sounds lame, sorry. just my opinion.
joeLove Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 The guy is probably shy and trying to feel his way through his first true ( romantic ) relationship ... He is probably going about it the wrong way... but, who didn't fumble it many times, when they were trying the first time? What don't guys do in college to get into women pants? The guy is probably just confused ... If you are the more mature, then you should try to 'lead' a little bit, if you are really interested ...
Eddie Edirol Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 Theres one method that you can use to get his attention... Try talking to him....sometimes that works..
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