U1987 Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 (edited) A lot of people have been trying to discourage me from online dating and telling me to just try college parties since I'm in college. The thing is, it really isn't that easy. Let me explain. So I'm 23 and still in college, and will most likely graduate in 3 or 4 semesters. Certain financial setbacks and constraints in the past few years made it financially unfeasible to be a full time student or to live on campus. If I rented a dorm room and enrolled full time, my family wouldn't be able to afford to send my younger brother to college, who's starting freshman year next year, so I've had to settle with commuting and enrolling as a part time student (3 classes a semester, compared to the average 5 or 6). I've been a part time student ever since I was 18. When I enrolled, I was equal with a lot of freshman guys, some of whom were high school friends. We went to a lot of parties, met people and girls our age and stuff. The thing is since I was a part time student, I slowly lagged behind as the years went on. As they came closer to graduation, they stopped partying and started buckling down and breaking old ties, which sucked for me, because as a commuter, I wasn't meeting a lot of people, so I relied on them to get into parties, introduce me around and so forth. Despite being in college for 5 years, I'm only halfway through my junior-level courses, but all my friends have graduated and moved away. I really don't know anyone on campus anymore, so I don't get invited to parties or know anyone who hosts them. I thought about joining the frat, but when I asked at their table rush week, the guys at the table discouraged me, saying that if I pledged at 23, I'd have to be some 19 or 20 year old guy's subordinate for a while, and there's no way I'm kissing ass or licking boot for someone who's younger than me. I work evenings 30 hours a week as well so school clubs are hard to attend too. But to be honest, even if I could attend, I can't imagine that the kind of people who join school clubs are also the kind of people who throw and attend wild college parties. What can I do? How can I break into the college party seen now that I'm older, have an evening job, commute and don't know anyone on campus? Edited December 20, 2010 by U1987 spelling and grammar
Star Gazer Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 I thought about joining the frat, but when I asked at their table rush week, the guys at the table discouraged me, saying that if I pledged at 23, I'd have to be some 19 or 20 year old guy's subordinate for a while, and there's no way I'm kissing ass or licking boot for someone who's younger than me. Well, in all honesty, joining a frat is probably one of the easiest ways to find yourself the casual sex you're looking for. Sure you don't want to consider it? Who cares if they're younger than you?
Author U1987 Posted December 20, 2010 Author Posted December 20, 2010 Well, in all honesty, joining a frat is probably one of the easiest ways to find yourself the casual sex you're looking for. Sure you don't want to consider it? Who cares if they're younger than you? I refuse to be hazed by someone who's younger and less mature than me.
Author U1987 Posted December 20, 2010 Author Posted December 20, 2010 Also, the frat guys aren't really big troublemakers, but their parties have been busted by the police. If I'm ever in one and there are under-21s there, I and any other over-21s will be arrested since they'll assume we are the ones that got the alcohol.
Star Gazer Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 I refuse to be hazed by someone who's younger and less mature than me. That's the nature of life. You think every boss you'll ever have will be older than you, particularly given that you're graduating later than your peers? Think again!!
Author U1987 Posted December 20, 2010 Author Posted December 20, 2010 That's the nature of life. You think every boss you'll ever have will be older than you, particularly given that you're graduating later than your peers? Think again!! My boss isn't going to smack my ass with a paddle, call to make me get him Chinese food at 3:00 AM, cut the lawn with scissors and a ruler or wipe the puked-up tequila off the bathroom floor.
Star Gazer Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 My boss isn't going to smack my ass with a paddle, call to make me get him Chinese food at 3:00 AM, cut the lawn with scissors and a ruler or wipe the puked-up tequila off the bathroom floor. It's only for a quarter or semester. Man up and do it. You'll love it.
callingyouuu Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 Man up and do it. You'll love it. Debatable. A lot of people enjoy it, but you have to make sure you find the right group of guys who fit your personality first. If you're part of one of those frats that gets busted all the time, they tend to have members on one of the extremes, so OP you need to be into that kind of stuff and not find it "immature" in order to enjoy yourself. That said, you'll need to join some kind of club or organization in order to get to know people/get invited to parties. Really in the social scene, greek life is your best bet.
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