hidayna Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 Before him and I started dating we had a year long friendship, where I had a crush on him practically the entire time, besides about two months where we dated other people. Finally, he came around and realized that "the one he wanted was here all along", and it was one of those Taylor Swift-esque kinda deals. Now for an important fact- my ex is bipolar/depressive. He doesn't have fits of rage like some bipolars do, but instead he would experience a period (a day or two) where his emotions would be thrown off, and it would be almost impossible for him to be affectionate, no matter how hard I tried to coax him into it. This was very frustrating for me, being a very emotional person who suffers from low self esteem- I felt like I was doing something wrong...Anywho, our combination was a recipe for disaster, though we had been platonic best friends for a year and our friendship was very fulfilling. Somehow being in a relationship didn't work with us, and we broke up because we both realized that we had our own issues to deal with, and we needed to do this independently. Now here's the hard part, we don't want to let go of each other. Right now we're in NC mode, but it's so difficult. I know for a fact that we will remain friends, and stay close because even before we dated he knew my feelings for him and knew it was a struggle but we were able to have a great friendship. I just hate the waiting. I don't feel strong enough to be on my own, though I know I have to be. I'm only 18, and he is 21. We both go to college and I work as well. I feel like I can't focus on anything I do for more than 10 minutes before I get the sinking feeling in my stomach, reminding me that it's really over. Honestly, I'm just looking to relate to someone....Anyone else ever have to deal with a significant other that has mental issues (like bipolar, etc.) Thanks!
Amandabanana6 Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 I don't have any experience with bipolar but I do know that we tend to hurt the ones we love the most. I know that right now it is really hard to get your mind off of him but I assure you that the only way that feeling in your stomach will go away is if you stop talking to him. It is definately hard at first but continuing to be his friend will only hurt you both more right now.
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