mo mo Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 I have had nothing but bad luck on online dating sites. I really don't know why, but I feel like I don't get noticed when I send girls messages. However, the outside world is a different story. I keep myself in really good shape, and its noticeable, even when I wear normal clothing. I'm clean cut and I have a decent sense of fashion. Last time I went out bar-hopping with my group of friends I got a few phone numbers. I even got my picture taken 3 times with 2 really good looking girls... by their boyfriends. They looked at me after they begrudgingly took the picture and said "I hate you" I don't wanna toot my own horn too much, because none of those women that gave me their numbers talk to me anymore (flakiness). No hard feelings or anything, I just wanted to point out that in the outside world I do get noticed. Does this kind of thing happen to anyone else here? I think it would be the opposite for most people, no?
musemaj11 Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 Online dating is the most foolish way for a man to find someone desirable unless you are drop dead gorgeous. Even the ugliest girls still get constant stream of offers in online dating. Unless you live under a rock, as a man you are better off looking for someone at school, at work, or at some community groups where you can actually talk to someone in person and make instant connection.
refurb Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 Online dating is the most foolish way for a man to find someone desirable unless you are drop dead gorgeous. My own personal appearance proves that wrong. RF
nice-easy-day Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 I've always had luck getting dates through online dating. But it's just been dates. It's very true that any reasonable girl online gets hundreds of guys after them at once. I believe this creates flakiness in the girls because once they date you once or twice they have 10 other guys they're interested in and promised they'd meet. Odds that you're number one are slim to none.
musemaj11 Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 I've always had luck getting dates through online dating. But it's just been dates. It's very true that any reasonable girl online gets hundreds of guys after them at once. I believe this creates flakiness in the girls because once they date you once or twice they have 10 other guys they're interested in and promised they'd meet. Odds that you're number one are slim to none. Exactly my point. In online dating, even below average girls feel that they are all hot models because of the demand they receive which they never get in real life.
joeLove Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 Forget online stuff. Real life doesn't happen online. It is a mirage ... It might be a way to practice certain skills, but ... it is just practice. Take some classes, i.e: Dancing classes, which are PACKED with beautiful, well in shape and health conscious women. You don't have to look like the instructor to get some attention.
Author mo mo Posted December 20, 2010 Author Posted December 20, 2010 Forget online stuff. Real life doesn't happen online. It is a mirage ... It might be a way to practice certain skills, but ... it is just practice. Take some classes, i.e: Dancing classes, which are PACKED with beautiful, well in shape and health conscious women. You don't have to look like the instructor to get some attention. I agree and thats some good advice
Author mo mo Posted December 20, 2010 Author Posted December 20, 2010 Online dating is the most foolish way for a man to find someone desirable unless you are drop dead gorgeous. Even the ugliest girls still get constant stream of offers in online dating. Unless you live under a rock, as a man you are better off looking for someone at school, at work, or at some community groups where you can actually talk to someone in person and make instant connection. Yea, this is what I have noticed. And some of these women are really good at manipulating the photos to show their best sides, once you meet them in person you almost can't recognize them. I actually did have a semi-serious relationship with a girl I met online years ago. She was rather attractive, but you really couldn't tell from her online profile. All the pictures were taken with bad lighting with a low-res webcam. She still managed to get about a thousand messages a week
USMCHokie Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 I find that I suck equally at both online and real life dating.
joeLove Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 Another good option is ... coffee shops like Starbucks. Find the best Starbucks in town, find out the best time, when there is the best traffic/crowd (usually between 7-9am on week days) and make it a habit to get there regularly at a certain time ... When certain girls start seeing you there regularly, you can't believe how some "funny chemistry" develops from there ... Many women go to Starbucks ... not for the Late or the Frappuchino ... if you know what I mean... Joe I agree and thats some good advice
SmileFace Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 I actually agree with the op. I have the worse time getting dates online. I mean guys are always talking about how women receive tons of messages online and have so many options. I have options but no where near the exaggeration. Yet in person I get hit on by men and women daily. Which I hate. Anyway , for someone reason I get around better in real life. But what I can say is that I think all men will get around better in Real life. Then again that is just a generalization.
USCGAviator Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 I'm successful online because I live in an area where the bar is basically the only place to meet people.......and I don't go to bars haha.
musemaj11 Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 (edited) Dance classes are like the most awesome place to find someone. Take something passionate like Salsa. But dont be awkward. I took a Salsa class once and many of the guys were fumbling because they felt uncomfortable getting into such an intimate space so quickly with complete strangers. Also some of the females were kinda creeping me out. It was obvious that they were in the class to hunt men not to learn how to dance. Just on the first day there was this girl who just wont let go of my hands ,,, Edited December 20, 2010 by musemaj11
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