swfc_77 Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 im just sat chillin out at home with a beer, trying to work out why my ex is being so openly stupid. she sent me this the other day, i know i'v had some opinions already but a womens point of view or anyones will do. she tx me - i know your probably happy that im hurting i keep crying and my heart is breaking because i miss the cat. i keep dreaming about him and just want to cuddle my baby even though you cheated on me with xxxx xxxxx and she admits it. please i just want to come round and see him, please (my name) she left me, she treated me like sh*t for 2 years. why would she accuse me of cheating with a girl i hardly know, but she seems to be so jealous of. even throuh the relationship she was overly suspicious of this girl. i never cheated with anyone, i never would, it means a lot to me to stay faithful. has she lost the plot, is she that desperate for a reaction from me. im not sure if someones lying to her, or if she's made it up, why would people do that?
alwayshoping Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 (edited) She clearly wants a reaction from you. Seriously cut her out. She's getting desperate to see you and would say anything at this stage for contact. Desperate acts. Your moving on matey, don't let her drag you back in. Edited December 19, 2010 by alwayshoping
Author swfc_77 Posted December 19, 2010 Author Posted December 19, 2010 no mate, im not interested in seeing her or replying. she's not dragging me anywhere, im not sad or upset. i am however a bit miffed why she would say these things, it has lowered my respect for her, what was left of it.
starryeyed12 Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 (edited) I agree with always. She's just trying to bait you. TBH, I really did miss my ex's cat, Nikki. She and I bonded and I love animals, but to say that I *need* to see her would really just be a cover to see him too. Cause if I can get in and see her then maybe he and I can talk. If we talk I will get some relief from this break up. If we can talk then maybe we can work things out. If we work things out maybe we can have another shot. See the train of thought? Whether or not another shot would be good or bad isn't what she's thinking about. It's just about getting her fix of you, and having another go if she wants it. Edited December 19, 2010 by starryeyed12
Author swfc_77 Posted December 19, 2010 Author Posted December 19, 2010 i'v done the second chance with her starryeyed, it didn't work. its not the seeing the cat that bothers me because its not going to happen, unless she walks by my house and he's out on his travels. even then i think he'd run (gallop ) away. the thing that bothers me is that she is still digging for info and talking about me to people, why accuse me of cheating and try to put me in a bad light to anyone that will listen. she is trying to drag me thrugh the dirt and make me out to be a bastard, when the truth is i was quite the opposite. nobody made her smile like i did, nobody showed her things like i did,nobody has ever cared for her like i did. why cant she just take the relationship for what it was, and walk away and learn the lesson.
alwayshoping Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 swfc you got me wrong! I didn't mean to imply you want to see her or that she's dragging you anywhere! All I meant, to put it more articulately is what starryeyed said she wants to see you at any cost in the hope she can win your heart again!
Author swfc_77 Posted December 19, 2010 Author Posted December 19, 2010 i dont know, she knows she will always have a special place in my heart but she cant seem to let go. what does she expect from me, i couldn't let her back into my life even if i wanted to (i dont) my family would go mad, i have plans for a new job. i dont know where she has been or who she has been with, too much has happened and i cant take anymore which is why im deciding thats that - no more. she still doesn't know im moving away and i plan on it staying like that until im gone. then it might hit home that i am gone and not 1 mile down the road anymore. i suppose inside im starting to realise that this girl is becoming more of an irritant than a pleasure to talk too. which in a way is sad. she has hurt me badly in the past and that tx message tells me she has sunk to a new all time low, im just dreading what she might come up with next. she's showing her true colours now.
alwayshoping Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 Very true and your being really matture not falling for her games. Just be prepaired for more as the holiday season kicks into full gear and she realises she doesn't want to be alone.
Author swfc_77 Posted December 20, 2010 Author Posted December 20, 2010 i dont think she is alone always, the girls a really good looking girl and could pick up company any night of the week, the difference is between me and other men around here is that none of them see past her striking good looks. i think this might be one of the reasons why she finds it hard to let me go, because i didn't care how she looked, she was always the same person to me. she could walk around in full make up lookin the part or walk around in bath robe lookin rough i would still treat her the same. the impression i got from her friends when we first met was that she was a bit of a tart and a sheep (follows what everyone does) and while she was with me she didn't do that, she was her own person and made her own choices, she might miss that too. without sounding big headed, she could be laid in bed with any1 and i would put money on it that she still thinks off me, she seems to mask her fears/pain by replacing it. anyway its her loss, im a good man i know, it she knows it. im not having a wobble btw, im just reflecting on the situation. i feel slightly sorry for the girl for the pain she's in about me or the cat, or both. but thats not my problem anymore, i have my own life to deal with, i just hope she grows up and starts acting like an adult before life starts throwing some real problems at her.
alwayshoping Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 swfc. Just because she's pretty and has loads of guys over her and lots of friends etc doesn't mean she is not lonely. Her actions towards you should be proof of that. She maybe surrounded by people but sometimes they do not scratch that itch which you can. She is obviously missing you like crazy because she knows she can no longer get you back. I reckon she just wants what she cannot have. Its good though that you are finding it easy to stick to NC bro. I really admire you desire to heal and put her in the past. I can also see why she is tainting her image by constantly texting you. If anything though it should help you see her without the rose tinted glasses and aid the process of moving on.
Author swfc_77 Posted December 20, 2010 Author Posted December 20, 2010 another missed call today from her, wish she would give up.
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