dconway8484 Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 This is the e-mail I sent to my ex-gf. After a few contacts (trying to understand why we broke up), I freaked out and she came over to talk to me. The conversation basically involved me asking her to give us another chance, etc. She said that she was doing "what she needed to do," but if we got back together "it would be for the long haul and we would get married and have babies." She basically developed feelings for someone else and broke it off. I'm thinking GIGS, but it doesn't matter, just wondering what you think of this e-mail? If she contacts me soon, should I say something different? Sent this a week and a half ago. Basically wondering, did I sound too much like a wuss? No contact since. XXXX, Thanks for coming over last night and talking. It felt good to get everything on the table, and it gave me a real sense of closure. I understand what you are going through, and why you are experiencing the feelings you are. I'm not sure what clicked or why my feelings have changed, but I've realized that I need to let you go. I'm sorry for all of the drama and for any hurt I caused you over the past few weeks. Thank you so much for what I learned from our relationship, it has really allowed me to accept and be happy with who I am. I wish you the best of luck with XXXXX, if you like him, he must be a good guy. I hope that it works out and that you get the happiness that you deserve. I will always consider you a friend, so if you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to call. XXXX
creighton0123 Posted December 19, 2010 Posted December 19, 2010 I'm not sure what clicked or why my feelings have changed, but I've realized that I need to let you go. If what you wrote in the email is right, it seems disingenuous. The email didn't ask for a return response, you mentioned a desire to let her go, but are currently unable to let her go. Breakups can suck. Things will get better, though. I'd say forgo contact unless she reaches out to you. You expressed a need to let her go. What's stopping you? / hug
Author dconway8484 Posted December 19, 2010 Author Posted December 19, 2010 Thank you for your response. My "let you go" was in regard to the fact that I was asking her to stay and she wanted to go. So I am in fact, letting her go, in that she can do whatever she wants to do, and I'm not going to do anything about it or try and stop her. I think most of us on this forum are in fact wanting to let our ex's go, but are having problems doing so. That's why we're here.
rhonian Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 i like it Jcon. Short, simple and to the point. I havent gotten to the point of an "closure" email and not even really sure if I should since Iam the one who ended the relationship. Anyway, let me ask you, do you want this relationship ended or if she wanted you back would you allow that? just curious....
Capital P Posted December 20, 2010 Posted December 20, 2010 It just sounds to me like u want her back. And you are accepting her being with someone else. And you are leaving the door open for her to contact you whenever she chooses. If i was a dumper and went off with someone else, and my ex sent me that letter, i would think they were mental
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